The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
This song came on the radio and took me by complete surprise...I started crying my eyes out!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fk_W29L9lA
My ex-husband used to sing it whenever I was sad. It was like a lullaby. Shhh Mel, here, burn one down and let it go...
There is a part of me that just wants someone to put their arms around me and tell me it's going to be OK. No matter how much progress i make, that part of me is still there. I can't even believe how much cried when I heard this song.
This al-anon stuff isn't for pussies.
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I agree Ms.M. This alanon stuff is hard and that is why we need HP's arms around us each and every moment of each and every day. Once we feel their strength we know deep down that we are not alone and are safe. Keep on letting go and trusting you are doing fine.
Put your arms round you. Your the one doing the work, looking after you, sticking up for and fighting for you. Trust you, everything will be ok but only because you are getting better at looking after yourself.
It is hard to be alone,hang in there.I am holding on to the hope that if I follow this program I will have someone who is healthy and true to me.This is hard ,I didn't realize how wounded I was until I started this program.
(((M))) What I find interesting about this song sung by both Dylan and Chris K is that they are inviting the woman to let them be her baby for the night, inviting her to bring a bottle over here and both were drug/alcohol users. Perhaps you've gotten to the place in the maturation process where that just doesn't work for you anymore? You are still a very young woman and your continued work in this program can result when the time is right in a partnership between you and an SO that is mutually inclusive, healthy, mature and complementary? I hope so. I can say that as I grew in both self confidence and self-esteem, the less I wanted to be anybody's baby or to allow anyone to be my baby either. I've also discovered that my HP is a dependable lover who courts me in ways I need when I'm feeling "womanly" and guides me when I need to feel the strength of HP's supportive leading similar to dancing with a strong partner who guides me with a hand on my back and allows me to be the strong and capable partner that I am.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Tuesday 30th of December 2014 11:29:42 AM
It is hard to be alone,hang in there.I am holding on to the hope that if I follow this program I will have someone who is healthy and true to me.This is hard ,I didn't realize how wounded I was until I started this program.
Hey Mary, I know what u feel...it would be nice to have someone who is healthy and true, but what if that isn't in the cards??? what if , with all these beautiful clothes and fit body, and healthy mind, there just isn't anyone for me???? I have to love myself.....reach out and have friends who love me.......being alone is not a curse, not when you've suffered what some of us have in relationships.....i think it will happen if it is in our life charts.....self love is what i am working on.......and I, too, did not realize how wounded i was till i got into recovery.....WOW!!!! i was totally unsuitable for a mate back then.....now I think I could hold up my end of a healthy relationship, but it would have to be "easy does it" for both of us.....not expecting anything...that way i am not disappointed.......
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
