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My Mom left this world in grace last night. I felt blessed to have used my Alanon toolkit and the support of my MIP family to have come though this the best way possible. My Uncle said I could take the photos in her room- he had placed a few of my Mom and Dad and a copy of their wedding album in her room when he first had her transferred there about a year ago. The funeral is tomorrow. Thanks to MIP and Alanon, I no longer am afraid of my family of origin- I know I can stand among them and be without expectation. My Uncle feels my Dad is not strong enough for a trip to the graveside. I'm so glad he was present for Mom's blessings yesterday late afternoon. Things feel strange now and it will be an adjustment when I visit Dad without my Mom also there... but each day is a blessing and I am grateful. Thank you for being here.
If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
(((bud))) May the peace that passes all understanding continue with you and remain with you through this day, tomorrow and the days to come. To see that you have stood in your own personhood and done what only you could do as a child of God, a woman bearing the gift of herself in her body, and a grieving yet also an adult daughter there to stand with her Dad and comfort and love her Mom is a gift for me today, too. I am also touched to see that you are no longer fearing anything in relationship to the others and are content to hold a piece of your parents' and your history in your hands - symbol of what you have all shared together and how far you have all come in this life. You've done well, bud. You've done very, very well.
Bud, I am sorry for all of your losses. Grateful offered a beautiful prayer and spoke the truth about you. Blessings and prayers during this difficult time.
