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Debilyn


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My son seemed cold to me as of late.

As it turns out he is having a serious problem as one of his best friends has become a meth addict and is nutz.

Son allowed B to move into part of his home. YOu can guess it has been hairbrained from the start. Son knew better but as we say, he loves B, he was one of the neatest guys> I liked him too. But he did the usual, left his neat family, has  a meth gf.

So now son is getting  B out of his house. B even left his dog running around, my son took her in of course. a very sweet old pit bull. He ended up having to put her down as she was failing. NO ONE Likes to do this, but son is responsible and loves animals.

So now B is being threatening to son. I told son to tall B I have a 38 now and he better stop messing with my manchild. lol I told my son it is just the mom in me to feel protective, that I know he can take care of himself. He got some mace and is prepared to stop any violence and tie  B to a chair till he is picked up. Trouble is B is a professional fighter...ugh that and meth = bad combo.    son says I don't want to hurt him!

Anyway this is what has made son seem cold at me. He has been going thru what we all know too well, someone elses disease making them sick. ugh.

He will not put up with it.  Now he knows what made me hang on to  my husband for so long. When it is someone we love, we feel so  frustrated about having to let go. Son and I are not nor ever have been quitters. But as we know, going up against someone elses disease is worthless.

so son was  here, helped me with my new battery. truck started right up.he was loving and kind to me like he usually is. whew. 

thank you for listening!! hugs!



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I am so sorry you are going thru this deb. You have the right attitude
About staying out someone elses disease. Your post spoke to me because
I need to stay out of my husbands disease and just save myself. Move on
And let go, it is so hard when you love that someone.

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Best friend or not....Meth kills and will kill. Lets just hope your son will take care of business and get B out of his home and to a place where he can get help.

He has to let go.....

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Prayers for all families and friends involved, Debilyn.

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I am so sorry Debilyn. I don't know much about meth except it's ugly and dredful! Take care of you. Work your program.



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Sorry to read of this horrible situation.

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bud


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"When it is someone we love, we feel so frustrated about having to let go."

So true! Sending prayers

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Debilyn


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thank you for the support. My son is far from a wus. He does have him out of the house.He told me B also stole  his tv. sigh

Yes it does affect so many doesn't it?He has such a nice family. I just want to grab him and shake him. He reminded me of my first husband lots.

I am so thankful my son is ok. As always I think I did something wrong. Too mommy too comfy in his home...

Have always had a special relationship with son. I am very humbly blessed.

 



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I can relate- so many times I leap to think that I've done something wrong. It's not always so easy being a Mom, no matter what their age.

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Deb one of the things that the disease of addictions did to me was keep me on my toes 24/7 and that exhausted my mine, body, spirit and emotions.  When I found the program I was done...empty...looking for a place to lay down and just hold my breath till I was all done.  I pray for solutions for your son, B and yourself.  By the way and I know that you know...the .38 doesn't make it better...just louder and worse.  When in doubt?...don't.   ((((hugs)))) smile



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Debilyn


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Jerry lol Nah I would only use it if someone broke into my home. If they were hurting my animals I would shoot the ground first.

B knows I am an old hippie and very layed back, to think I of all people had a gun.....He does know how much I love my son.

I want B to be ok just like son does. Its so sad as B was such a cute laid back guy, young hippie type. Reminded me of my first rip husband. 

hugs jer



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Thanks for the hugs...Yeah I gotta look at the picture as a Debber rather than as a Jerry F who would only shoot the ground if that was where the threat was laying.  Getting rid of all of my weapons was one of the earliest recovery steps and to think...I was also a gunsmith and avid shooter.  I'm glad they are all gone cause I'm still alive and so are others.   ((((hugs)))) back atcha.  wink



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My prayers are with you and your post is very enlightening. My A is a meth addict and when on it or coming down off it, he was nutz...the more he had to use the worse crazy he was....gentle warning here, they can become crazy insane and very hostile and physical, I hope your son is very aware at all times so nothing serious could happen to him.

(((HUGS, HUGS, HUGS)))



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