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SunshineGirl


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A little thing that happened on Sunday made me sit up and realise how utterly changed I am now.

AH's son had arranged to drop by at 11am to visit, I had other plans and was going out.  The big a-ha Al-anon moment was that AH had decided to drink all night and get drunk as a skunk!    So staggered into bed (we have separate bedrooms) at some nutty time in the morning.  Passed out fast asleep.

Now, and this is the bit, I was vaguely aware of him being flaked out and that it was 10am.  Didn't cross my mind to wake him up, jolly him along, encourage him into the shower, get dressed because of his son being due in an hour.  All of which I would have done before.

I just casually viewed it as 'not my problem' and got about my day.

Wow, wow and wow again.

I came back later and it didn't even occur to me to ask how the visit went.  Or indeed whether AH woke up or what.

The old me would have 100% taken it as my responsibility to get AH up and ready for his son arriving.  I would have been very anxious and stressed about it.



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Cathyinaz


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Now that's progress.....doesn't it feel good not to have that worry. We all need to just take care of our problems and affairs and let the rest go.

We can also hope that someday that person not taking care of themselves will come to realize....hey what just happened here?

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grateful2be


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Love this share on loving detachment. Thank you.

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Breakingfree


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I loved that you are handing this man back his own responsibility! It works when you work it and this is a great example! Sending you love and support on your journey!

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Good work Sunshine Girl. Recovery sneaks up on us and one day we look and"WOW" we have responded differently and did not REACT. Lovely share

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It works if you work it!smile



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SunshineGirl


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Many thanks for the lovely posts Cathyinaz, Grateful2b, Breakingfree, Hotrod and Cloudyskies.

Al-anon truly is a life changing and life saving program. I love it. As I work it, it gives and gives.

Thank you all for being here.

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