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Yesterday I called an old friend I hadn't talked to in years.I cried as we talked and afterwards I realized how many things I gave up. that is, I am remembering things in bits of pieces, just things I have done or have not done because of pleasing him..I let him control everything I did,every decision, every feeling.when he ate dinner I had to put my dog in another room because he wouldn't let the dog look at him while he ate!!!what a poopie head!!,,and I am feeling kind of angry all of a sudden.But I am hoping it doesn't linger.I am making plans to go visit my friend, she is in another state so it will be a grand adventure for me.Oh if I only had a convertible car!!!
(((Mary))) You are experiencing a true awakening and are able to see without the cloud of denial and pretend. Be gentle with yourself and all about you. Awareness,(Seeing) is a powerful first step in the process. Acceptance (Not trying to change or alter the facts the next and the last of the 3As is Action.
It is very important to realize and truly see our part in the situation. When we see our part, we are able to use Al-Anon tools to change our attitudes, actions and responses.
Keep an open mind, keep using the tools, keep making gratitude and asset lists and very soon you will see the wisdom , serenity and courage of this program manifested in your life on a daily basis.
Yes I am awakening and I do see!!!It is such freedom to know I have choices, I am not a victim of circumstances. I feel so grateful to finally do this!!!!Thank You!
Yay for you! When I look back at the choices I made to please the poopie heads in my life, the ones I still have twinges of sadness over at times are the ones I made regarding our children and our pets. Maybe they come up occasionally as a reminder to watch out when I begin to morph into my old ways of being. Let your anger be your friend (without being destructive) until you no longer need it Sounds like a Thelma and Louise sort of trip you are dreaming of?
Love the pic and your a kitty person.....how cool is that.
When we finally start to let go and doing just a little self care is when the light bulb comes on and day by day it gets just a little better. Practice is the key to success......one day at a time.
(((( hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
thank you and yes it is getting better.that is my cat willow,she is a manx,they are born without tails.I love animals,I also have a dachsund named todd.I would have more if I could!!!
I am so glad to hear your awareness is growing and the cloud of denial is lifting. I am happy your here and just want you to know with MIP, al-anon meetings and my sponsor I have changed so much in the last 3-4 years I barely recognize myself some days. I had isolated with him and lived to please my exAH which was impossible. I used to be a victim, but now I am an overcomer and survivor. Keep coming back and digging into you self care! Sending you love and support on your journey!
-- Edited by Breakingfree on Tuesday 4th of November 2014 07:35:22 AM
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Sounds like a Thelma and Louise sort of trip you are dreaming of?