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Well another week done and two days off. That I am happy because it's been a busy week....
My foot is healing, got the stitches out yesterday. It still feels the same and now with a scar but the doctor told me it will take a few months for that nerve end to heal and let the pain go away. Right now I'm not believing him but we will see. He's the professional ....
My son is still in detention for his own safety until they can move him to a new facility. He is healing from not one but two beatings. He's doing OK but doesn't like being in a cell 24/7 without much human contact. He has written and given all his testimony on how, what, where and why this happened and he holds the prison system completely responsible for not taken action 3 months ago. I totally agree with him and myself went to the family of prisoners support department for answers. I talked to his CPO and she is in total agreement with my son but it will take time to get him moved and things back to normal ( normal meaning back to general population and not in confinement alone ). It's sad but we have to accept his fate. The person that did the deed is right across from my son and on top of his door to his cell has the number 3 meaning he is going to a medium prison because he is being charged with a new crime. My son still has a 1 on his so they are not charging him with anything, will not get any tickets and will not lose his time off for good behavior. When he does get moved I will have to travel about 2 hours to see him...sucks but it is what it is.
Usually this time of the year is when the trucking industry dies but not this year. There is about a 40% increase in business right now and we got caught short in keep stock for our customers. I'm on the phone all day trying to get parts in early so production can meet requirements needed for this increase in business. It's crazy right now...good crazy but crazy. With the trucking industry going gang busters .....I'm praying this is a sign of the economy coming back.
Along with the business increase, trying to get the new production software up and running, training and IT work I also do, not much feel time for anyone.
My home is a mess but I vowed not to clean it. I will keep my bedroom/bath clean but nothing more. If my SO doesn't state do his part, being retired now, not sure what I will do. I guess I can keep up all of it and let him play for the rest of his life because I can't change him, or I can tell him I'm gone in which will enrage him as usual. I'm weak in this department..lol
Well it's the weekend and I'm going to enjoy a couple of days off and do what I need to do to stay happy and take care of me. I think I will wash my car..
Have a great weekend and thank you so much for being here.....I love you all
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Cathy: I'm disappointed for you. I was hoping the pain would be gone for you. Yet, your attitude seems sooooooo accepting, calm and I think I detect a little tongue in the cheek humor when it comes to "now I have pain with a scar?" The share about your son's experience is difficult to read and I'm sure it is more than difficult to know for you. Many prayers for both of you. I'm also happy to see that you are taking care of yourself and letting SO be SO without taking up the slack for him. Of course, he may never clean but you've only got so much energy right now and I'm glad you're putting it where it makes sense.
Thanks for updating us about your foot and the situation with your son. Great news that the stitches are out. I hope that feels good for you. Glad your son is being kept safe until the move. It likely is very hard to be isolated that way but also a good chance to get to know his own higher power on a much deeper level if he chooses.
You sound excited in a good way about the work you do. You always seem to no matter how much work there is to do. I envy you a bit in that way since I'm searching for work I'll feel passionate about too. Not sure where/what that is since I'm still rebounding from the toxic workplace. More will be revealed. Nice to know there are industries that are thriving in this economy. It gives me hope so thank you for that!
I hope you have a wonderful weekend and do something you really love. Was that big old car that use to be an avatar, your car? I thought that was a very cool looking car. I guess I'm thinking it would give me pleasure to spend time washing a car like that on a weekend lol. Anyway, hope you enjoy every minute whatever your plans.
(((hugs)))) TT
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I can't resist saying Good Morning to you Lovely Lady - thank you for the update, you sound calm and full of grace - despite the background noise. Sending ((((hugs))))
((((((((((((((((Cathy)))))))))))) i was thinking of you and here you are w/update............glad about the foot and it takes a while for nerve damage to heal...so it will be OK but it needs TIME
re: son??? wow, being in prison/jail is no fun, but perhaps, like my niece, this awful experience will force him to want to STAY sober/clean when he gets out.....nothing like a stint behind the bars to wake up someone....my niece has been clean, now for 3 years almost...does not EVER want to go back to jail and the hazzards that come with it......so one can hope...its his journey....u r just observing, loving mom, with no power over his lessons or his choices.....
as to SO??? i would just do my "take care of me" end of it and let him to his own devices....i would just detach and take care of me....job sounds like u might be secure working there., lol....hope u r right and economy is coming back.....i could use a client to replace the one who is just awful to work for....NOW hes blaming ME for his wifes mishandling the vendor invoices re: inventory....how can i match a bill to an item receipt if i don't get access to the bills??? he is blaming me and ugly about it...i know hes dying, and i am sorry, but i can't stand how he treats me........so hope u r right and things are picking up....sept figures of consumer spending dropped....so i guess it is wait and see...
it was good to hear from you.....take care of YOU....the others are big enough to make their own paths...
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