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Well technically I am divorced .. however it's not signed yet and it will be big time. Anyway, XAH is as crazy as you wanna be and that's ok as long as it keeps it to himself .. sharing is so overrated!!
There is has been a LOT going on some of which I still can't talk about, that's ok too.
My mom sent me a lovely package .. the problem is she's retired and believes everyone and their brother has as much time as she does and that's just not my reality .. LOL. So today was drama filled from her and I felt really bad however good grief. I finally pick up the package and she believes my 4 door car is as big as my van was .. LOL! I was like WHATEVER!!! So I open the box and figure out really quickly that is not going to work because the box inside the box is the same size .. UGH!! So I sat and was late to work because I'm trying to unload this box into my car directly which I did .. LOL. Anyway, .. funnier story is that I get the damn thing all unloaded and call my mom to tell her I got it .. it dawns on her how big the box was and how I probably couldn't get it in the car. UGH!!
It's her Waterford crystal and things of my Grandma's from when she passed away and I'm so grateful she waited to send them until now because had this been while I was still with my XAH .. it would have probably gotten sold and I wouldn't have known.
It feels so good knowing that at least I don't have to worry about that and I have renters insurance which I never had while we were together and so on.
I will have to find a nice curio cabinet to display them in. I have good memories regarding that Waterford crystal so it's fun to know it's in my house.
Anyway, crazy stuff and now that I have gotten rid of the dang plastic I have all these glasses to figure out what to do with .. LOL! Of course the kids want to unwarp them and I'm like NOOO .. LOL .. they are in bubble wrap which is where they need to stay for the moment!!
This has been a good almost 2 weeks actually, .. things are ok and that's awesome :)
Hugs S :)
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Out goes the plastic tubs - in comes the Waterford crystal. It is true - nature abhors a vacuum. I'll bet your Mom had a ball wrapping that all up for you. What a wonderful gift for you!
-- Edited by grateful2be on Tuesday 28th of October 2014 09:15:04 PM
My poor mom is just not doing ok at the moment .. she's overwhelmed and I think has some hording issues .. nothing safety wise that I would worry about just stuff stuff and more stuff at least I come by it naturally.
Her place is torn up from top to bottom and she's fit to be tied, I feel so badly that she's having to do so much of this alone because I get how hard it is and she's got almost 30 years on me. I'm a little irritated that the woman who was hired to help her is leaving on Friday and apparently won't be back. So I'm concerned that this hasn't been finished and she will have to do this alone. It's just not an option for me to go back at the moment. She has to get it done or it will be more of a nightmare for her.
So I got a lot of tears when I talked to her today and I really don't know how to support her because she needs more than I can give her .. I'm just at a loss. I have a hard time being close to her. Yet according to her we are very close .. funny how perspectives are about situations.
Anyway, .. I'm enjoying just the idea of the crystal being here and hope to get it displayed properly sooner than later.
S :)
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"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Awesome SRU- you disposed of the plastic containers and life brought you Waterford!
I'm sorry your Mom isn't well but I'm glad that issues of safety aren't a concern. It is best to come by things naturally and also that she let's go naturally.
Sending prayers for you and your Mom. Enjoy your crystal! Let your Mom figure out what it is that she needs to do and trust HP.
A beautiful gift from your mama.....releasing it may have been tough for her. I am glad you can enjoy this gift in your new beginning. Prayers for your mom ( and you too ).
Oh man I remember when my divorce was first over, oh the freedom I felt! I really dove into self care for myself in a big way. Sending you love and support!
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"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
serenity: this is the first time I have really been able to comment on anything. I just want to share a little about my divorce nearly 20 years ago. I was married to a recovering alcoholic but found myself married to a very sick man who helped me to find sickness in my life. I won't go into any detail but he seemed to not recover from a lot of things & though it necessary to abuse me. I am so grateful for the freedom I found when he finally sent me the final divorce papers. I was relieved that I could finally move on w/ my life. Now I am married to a recovering alcoholic who doesn't use the same kind of abuse to control me & make me feel less than. I am a work in progress though. I have those shortcomings that sometimes damage my marriage. I am somewhat controlling & my A can be the same way. I guess the control never really ended. I am working on letting the past go. I guess sometimes when I don't get an apology or a change in the situation, I am can be unsure of my present situation. Sometimes we move on w/ unresolved conflict.
I am still moving forward though. I guess I always will be.
I saw some Waterford crystal today on sale at a major department store. Geez! 1 champagne flute - $85.00. 1 Christmas ornament - $75.00. What's your address, Serenity. I'm going to send you mounds and mounds of bubble wrap and a safe.
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Henceforth I shall always admire Waterford Crystal, knowing that it is HP's preferred replacement for plastic! 