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Tash2


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hi  all,

I'm conscious that I don't just want to post when struggling or in dispair because I know I still have a long way to go in my recovery. But tonight I find myself at home why AH has gone for a spontaneous "drink after work". He's been better if late, but I can now read the signs about him becoming needy for the release of drinking. so as predicted that quick drink had lasted 3.5hrs & He's leaving his car at the bar! 

12 months ago id have text, rang, told him he'd feel rubbish at work tomorrow, try to reason with him etc. but tonight instead I'm enjoying the peace at home, catching up on a favourite TV program & not letting him dominate my thoughts. I don't even feel anxious! This is a maasive step for me & I trust my HP will guide me. 

Pretty proud of myself & just wanted to share. X



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nybeachgirl


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Proud of you for not letting him consume your thoughts. Your HP definitely is guiding you in the right direction. Keep moving forward! xox

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cloudyskies


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Way to go Tash. I'm proud of you, too! I live with an active alcoholic also, and I have learned by no reacting to my h's drinking, I'm taking some of alcoholism's power. The disease wants us to react. It needs us to react as that's the way it control us. So when we walk away from the fight, just plain refuse to join the fight, we take away some of its power to control us.

makes me feel pretty good too!smile

it works if you work it!



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Debilyn


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That  is huge progress!!!

Now doesn't that feel better? I invite you to keep a journal. Then if you go wonky again you can read it for encouragement and remind you of how to let it all go!

I am so happy to hear you have found some peace!!



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