The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Yet sometimes I react rather than THINK and respond.
My mind is a dangerous place to go alone. ( better to ring an al anon friend and reason something out).
before al anon my thinking was stinking it still can today but my al anon tools change it from negative to positive.
attitudes are thoughts so again al anon changes my attitudes by changing the way I think.
Today I like healthy thinking this is what al anon is giving me I feel for sick people who do not have al anon medicine to take to take the darkness away,
Thanks Tracy.
Yes sometimes I just react and feel bad afterwards, feel like going backwards. The outcomes are so much better and healthier when I just stop and think.
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Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tip toe if you must but take the step.
Luiza, that's exactly what I did last night. I reacted without thinking. Hopefully, with the help of my HP, the next time I feel anger, I won't react without thinking things through.
Take one day at a time.
It works if you work it.
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Look for the rainbow after the storm, and I'm sending you a double dose of HOPE. H-hold O-on P-pain E-ends
Yes I did it last night too. And this morning. I bet STBX was all happy and excited seeing the drama coming back, seeing me reverting to my sick ways.
Guess what? I went out with my daughter in the morning, spent the whole day out having fun and came back. He was ready for the show...but I didn't engage. Not one little bit. I was silent and poised. I am so proud of myself. Yesterday I was feeling awful, couldn't soothe myself to sleep. Woke up 'hangover' and had a bad start of the day. But I managed to turn it around. Thanks HP, MIP, Al-Anon. it is so good to act/behave healthily!
HP put two sentences for me today:
*Happiness is not a destination, it is a way of life*
*Happiness is a inside job*
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Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tip toe if you must but take the step.
Thank you for this! I have to talk my self out of the "obsess-react-freak out" mode constantly. Thankfully I am able to be successful more since I have found this board and al anon publications - it amazes me that only a month ago I was so immature in my thinking that I just flew off the handle, completely ruled by my emotions...ah to be in your 40's and finally start learning how to live...lol
