one of my two BFF's since girlhood had a sister whom i really really liked....when the abuse from older brother (whom I dissociated from) got real bad with his getting drunk and kicking in my little apartment door, and I couldn't stay w/ "S", my buddy, her big sister, Janet,  always took me in......Janet never had good health..Not really but she made up for a lacking body with a heart of gold...she was a fun gal to hang out with,  i was part of the family, their dad and mom sorta "adopted" me and I was part of the clan...that meant on saturdays we had to wash dad's car before we were to have our day and that meant fun and frolick for us... Janet would start it, a water fight, slopping soapy water all over each other...we got more soap and water on us then dad's car......oh yea, and we would wrestle and she and "S" would gang up on me and tickle me till i was ready to pass out from the laughing

I remember in 1975 when the offender and his awful oldest son  wouldn't stop harrassing me, I decided to fly to CA to get away from them , i think Janet took it as bad as "S" did...She wanted to kill them for tormenting her little friend...Literally and ya know?? had they fought, I would have put my money on Janet...She was a tough one.....

Well over this past 6 months or so, she began getting really really sick and "S" would call me to get comfort and i would just listen and we would talk about her condition...The latest offence to her already compromised body  was leukemia and she was getting seizures from something....it was awful,  then her heart began to get bad and she last week had a big heart attack.....i kinda saw the hand writing on the wall...tried to gently "prepare" "S" as much as you CAN prepare one for losing her sister...I felt so bad...So helpless and on her sick bed she would ask "S" (as her memory began to fail) ...did ya talk with Rosie?? how is she doing??  she still skinny??? Tell her I said hello and will see her soon one day.... oh yea, all the time she would ask about me when "S" and i got reunited after i fell off the face of the earth in my dysfunction, sickness from bad marriages, bad choices, etc...Janet was so excited when "S" found me on facebook...But she was beginning to tire and didn't reach out much to anyone...Her children all grown sorta were supportive, but not as much as i would have liked....

Anyway, I just wanted to mention that the world is a little bit dimmer today b/c one of its shining little lights has gone to her happy place where the air is clean, the cars wash themselves and there is no sickness and pain...."S" told me that poor Janet hadn't felt good in YEARS and I remember....Now she is free....One day we will all see each other again and we can have a good wrestling match and do Janets favorite all time mischief fun and frolick adventure.........make a BIG batch of spaghetti with the sauce and mushrooms and all the trimmings, bread, veggies, even desert........Eat till you burst, and then toss what is left (usually a BUNCH of stuff) at each other till there is nothing left on the table............Oh man, just thinking of the cleanup makes me cringe with a big smile.....

She passed as i was getting off work, about 1:30 my time.... 

RIP Janet!!! You will be missed