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You guys have NO idea that at 1pm there was STILL a question as to IF I was getting divorced because EXAH's (HEE HEE that feels SOOOO good to say!!) atty could not be reached and there was just something incredibly weird about the letter they sent. I honestly believe and I verbalized this to my atty that they didn't want me to show. She even told me NOT to show up .. I told her NO WAY .. I'm sooo there and thankfully I listened to my intuition and showed up!! OMGOSH .. you all have to know as much as I've been to court I feel VERY comfortable with the Judge in the case as well as just knowing what was going to happen .. by the way .. Ex did NOT get on the stand .. hmm .. wonder why? Well, maybe it was because he's a LIAR!!! LOL!!!
Anyway, there were some comedic moments .. like the Judge teasing me about the fact my marriage date was recorded wrong and we had to start everything over no divorce today .. LMAO .. I looked at that man and said umm .. you are SOOO NOT FUNNY!!! Please don't quit your day job .. I'm here to get DIVORCED .. no no no no no .. I'm getting divorced!! I was on the stand at that point!!! When I say I was gleeful .. that is not an understatement. LOL .. Ex's atty kept trying to get ahold of the situation .. hey if I'm paying I want a story to walk away with and he goes into the whole issue of alimony saying I can't cohabitate .. blah blah blah .. I said well if HE cohabitates do I get more money? The judge laughed and said .. nooo .. that's not how that works .. LOL. I asked why not? That seems like a raw deal to me!? As if I'm going to live with anyone at this point .. LOL!! My point was made. My poor atty at this point was ready to keel over going I've lost control of my client. The Judge and I were having a field day. His atty was ready to have a coronary ... LOL. Seriously, you know I don't find divorce to be a laughing matter however as long as this has gone on I'm just to the point of why not at least have a good time because this is a new beginning for me and the kids!!!! I was a very happy girl when I left the court room and I was teased some more about it as we left. One of the funniest questions to me was do you believe that at any point you and the defendant will reconcile or it would be good for the family .. OMGOSH .. my mouth hung open and I snapped ABSOLUTELY NOT!! NO WAY NO HOW!! NO! I kind of think my position of wanting to be divorced was made VERY clear.
There's so much more to tell! My atty was very funny in terms of her telling me I did a fantastic job and then asking me later .. you are way to comfortable up there and I said ..yes .. been there done that a LOT at this point and I love this particular Judge he tickles me to no end.
Here IS the sad part never once said a word about not seeing the kids. The business about visitation was a crock .. he started in at one point I looked at my atty and said NO .. my answer is NO. Immediately said .. never mind leave it. He fully knows I will battle him in big and unusual ways over that issue. I'm just soo happy right now. In order for them to pursue this matter we are talking THOUSANDS of dollars as well as the kids testifying against him .. that IS very sad. He doesn't exercise the visitation that he has .. why in the WORLD is he going to change it? He's so lazy that he actually went into the letter that my daughter is 16 and can drive so she should be driving to and from visitation .. umm .. first off NOOOOOO .. she is 15 .. second off .. in what car? MINE? NO! He wants transportation to and from visitation HE provides the car in HER name. Like I said off the table immediately and as soon as that was resolved .. here we are .. DIVORCED!
I do have court in 90 days and he is a liar as he couldn't take the stand. I had a good laugh about that.
Other than that ... it's all good. Kids and I had a wonderful dinner out and I'm relaxing .. unfortunately I think I'm getting SICK .. UGH!!! So glad it's towards the end of the week!!
Hugs S :)
PS - LOTS more changes I will share more shortly.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
So happy for you! You have worked your program so well during this lengthy process. You are an amazing woman! Way to trust your HP and keep on your side of the fence. Are you sure you don't want to be a paralegal????
Congratulations! Finally, I was really fearful that today would end with a post that your weren't divorced yet! Hip Hip Hooray for you!
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
OMGOSH .. I totally almost was NOT divorced and I was not a happy woman .. my poor atty took the brunt of it all this AM .. how am I not going to be divorced was all I kept saying .. LOL.
GE .. LOL .. I would be in SOOOO much trouble ALL of the time .. I keep reminding myself after a day like today in court .. I mean God love that Judge and I .. we had some fun at the expense of the atty's going WTH is going on .. LOL!! I was behaved .. just not as behaved as I should have been. My atty was very shocked as we went through the court house she said .. umm .. you said you had been there a lot I didn't know you meant A LOT!
I have considered still going into the legal field we will see .. I'm just finding my footing right now .. If I did I would want to pursue a Masters in it .. I just would like to be in my 50's when I get it. I don't know.
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Wow, I am unsure how to respond I have never known you as a divorced woman and that it actually happened and that you wrote exAH??? I am so happy for you and think you will love the feeling of freedom and just being able to have closure. Now behave, haha! Congratulations in a big way! Sending you lots of love and support on this new journey!
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