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Newlife girl


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AH decided to work on a stranger's truck. People drive by our house and often stop and ask if he is selling one of the non-operating vehicles in our driveway. So he told me a guy stopped to talk to him about a car he has, and they started talking about a truck the guy owns that needs to be fixed. AH thinks it's a good way to make some money, since he still doesn't have a real job. So he works on the truck for 3-4 days. It was supposed to be an easy fix, but of course it took longer than he expected. The guy takes his truck back and within a week he calls AH and tells him there is still a problem. AH worked on the truck again tonight at a body shop the guy took the truck to for some body work. They drive the truck away and it starts to make noise or whatever, so they pull into a parking lot and start working on it again. while he was working on this truck again tonight, he had our daughter with him in his truck while he worked on the other truck. I was at my divorce support group. I picked daughter up in the parking lot. The 2 guys who owned the truck were standing and talking with AH. One guy had his arms folded and did not look happy. AH later tells me he might have to call a tow truck for them and they don't agree with what's wrong with the truck. 

this is my point: this is risk-taking behavior again. No surprise really. I wonder if it's against the law to work on people's cars when you aren't a licensed mechanic. I am now afraid these guys might stalk him or something. They know where he lives...which is the house my daughter visits him in. Am I being paranoid? I guess he will learn a lesson...maybe he won't. He didn't even make any money off this job because it took a long time and he had to buy parts. Most things he works on usually take a lot longer than he expects. 

I voiced my concern and told him I thought it was dangerous...and left it at that. on a good note...the support group was helpful. 



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Smiling in recognition at your concerns about what might or might not happen . I'm glad the support group was helpful and, as always, I am reading your avitar - it gives me such a good reminder of what I should be focusing on. For today I'm choosing number five 'never speak bad about yourself'. Thank you so much for that Newlife Girl. (((Hugs)))

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For being separated one sure is involved in A's stuff.

Well anytime you mess with strangers you take a chance. they may be fine, but what happens when this guy tells someone else.

MIght be a silver lining! maybe they will steal those crap vehicles! lol

No its not illegal to work on someones car with out a license etc. least not in oregon.

 



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NLG: Sister, you might have lost your primary focus for a bit? I've done the same myself. It doesn't matter what he does with his time unless it directly affects you. The things you're focused on and worried about are only going to upset you and harm you. It's your choice where you put your focus, I know. I also know you are under a tremendous amount of stress and your focus on him and what he's doing will only add to it.

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