My dark fantasies are evolving .. LOL .. now these are meant tongue and cheek. 

When I started my journey .. ohhh the whiskey truck getting set on fire in the country was a big go to one for me .. LOL .. I had one day that the STBAX had to go out and move the truck or I don't think I could have controlled myself.  That was when the DUI hit. 

When I found out about the affair .. bi-planes with leaflets of the emails I found (he left them up on the screen) and copies of the phone bills .. I KNOW the company would have loved to have seen those as if it hadn't put my STBAX's job in jeopardy she would have been fired big time. 

When the divorce stalled out LAST year and I was literally getting a very good deal on support .. it made me laugh because I KNOW he was not telling the truth and that he was going to the ex wife .. she works for an atty office and getting his legal advice from her .. LOL.  She's not even a paralegal.  Unfortunately for him because he lied her advice was not good.  Anyway, I thought 2 flower bouquets .. as much as I would have liked to have sent black roses .. I decided that could be taken out of context as a threat so that was not good .. LOL.  I decided that sending a thank you note with a colorful bouquet would be appropriate.  The card would read something like .. I want to say thank you for all of the priceless legal advice you have given to your ex husband .. without you I wouldn't have gotten the deal I did .. I will be forever grateful for your help.  To the other woman .. Thank you for doing him as God provided me an out through you and I will be forever grateful for Him ending something I could not end myself. 

Now .. I have moved on to singing telegrams .. I miss those days .. obviously current songs, poems, with my wording of course however a tad more colorful in the language.  I would love to take a video and post that to youtube .. LOL .. I know .. bad bad bad .. however this is where I'm grateful for Alanon .. it's a feeling not a fact and unfortunately (or fortunately .. LOL) I don't have the funds to provide myself with such a luxury of closure.  It would be brilliant and for me it would be fun.  For these two women .. not so much .. lol. 

My reality of what I have been able to do as far as closure with the other woman is I was able to confront her and not in a Jerry Springer crazy way .. I did get my closure face to face and it's not for the faint of heart I will tell you that .. she fully knows who I am now and I am no longer invisible.  Her parents know who I am as well as they were with her when I confronted her.  I have NO remorse about the fact I did.  I have no doubt that Ruby Tuesday's is off the menu after Sunday church though and I have NO doubt she will think twice before getting involved with a married man.  It got very real and she got a huge dose of reality.    I took my power back and with it got a text from the STBAX stating I hope your proud of yourself and again .. thanks to Alanon .. I didn't text back WHY YES I AM .. THANK YOU! :)  I could have confronted her MONTHS earlier and did not .. I do believe that God provided that for my own healing and as a lesson to both of them.  Back to bad behavior is bad behavior .. it could have been soooo less messier in terms of end the relationship first and THEN move on. 

I haven't had the opportunity to confront the ex wife and I will at some point IF the God of my understanding provides the opportunity I will take it.  It's one of those deals that I will not seek her out .. there is no need.   

Why I love my sponsor .. she laughed and said you have the best imagination and are the bravest person I have ever met.  I don't know many people who could have handled the other woman situation as gracefully as you have with all of the sense of humor you utilized .. and still walked away with no cops being called .. LOL.  I told her there was no need for that .. I did need to be heard .. that was important to me .. however she took that is not my issue .. I spoke my truth and I did so with dignity and grace. 

Hugs S :)