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Debilyn


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I have a piece of land I rent out. nice family put a new fifth wheel there. Now I have to put up a permanent structure to make it legal. It's not legal to have anyone live in an RV.

Because A's disease devastated me financially I am going round and around how to do this. Just found out I have to pay a couple hundred just to get an ok to put another structure on, when I just took one down. sigh.

I need the income from renting this property. I do not want a permanent structure there. I am thinking I need to just say to heck with it and put a small something there to put tac in and rent it for horses.

Never had trouble with horse boarders. Just hate losing this family. They would be so sad to have to go.

I just need three boarders for a hundred a month. They could do two horses for that if they wanted to. Plus they would always go to their stalls etc from that property. I loved my last people who were there.

My savings is gone. My retirement is gone. All went to his messes from being so sick.

So even years later I am sitting here needing to cry and let it out. I carry around this thing hard to explain, a heaviness, a I need a vacation just to not think for a little while. I KNOW I will make sure we are ok. My animal family and I. Just feel heavy.

I went to see A but not home again.Wasted gas...sigh. Next time will take the bus in. What makes me want to see him? I don't know. All I know is I want to. NO he won't live with me. NO way, mostly becuz I have NO desire for that but of course number one is I am not married to him and would not live with a man I am not married to even if he only rented a room.

Missing my friend/my guy I cut off from. Every frigging day. I don't know if I could love anyone else or not. The disease has come up at every turn. If it is not the A's it is the co's from the A's!

sheesh. Well I gotta go clean up the eight foot across water trough round, heavy plastic someone got for Augie who will not go in it today....sigh.

Found out my blood is waaaaay too thin.....so spose to be still.. me??? huh???? my bp went way way down so off one med now it is sorta up again. I am sure that is affecting me.

I need to go camping......tried before alone, got scared and came back home! lol

I cannot imagine mac wanting me to tag along with nine dogs. lol I can bring this fold out fence.....right how relaxing would THAT be??? lol

so anyway just venting.... now going to go dig in my food...so many great vegan things! hugs



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Debilyn, keep your chin up pal. It will all work out, maybe you need a wee rest from it all going around in your head. Give it to your hp, watch a nice cheery movie, put your feet up. Try putting it out of your mind tonight and see if any answers come tomorrow. Your a toughie, in scotland some would say your a tough wee bird.x

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((Debilyn)))

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Prayers being said here for you, Debilyn. A quote from your favorite book comes to me: "All things work for good for those who love God/HP..." Although I know that you are a very independent gal who does her best to take good care of herself, is this one of those bigger than you situations that can be turned over into the hands of your HP?

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Lucky our program reminds us that we only need to live in today. The slogan First Things First comes to mind. That slogan is a constant for me these days.  If your exah comes to mind when thinking of that slogan, maybe sitting with the feelings and some CAL lit - just a suggestion.  I'm taking a little license here because remember, I knew you when and I really care about you. You say you don't understand your sudden interest in exah.  Are you still trying to reason things out about that virtual friendship with you know who??  If so, HP is the soft place to land not exah's doorstep. I can help you remember in private message if you'd like.  The short version is that you'd be putting yourself in harms way.  Please don't.

As far as the property and that decision, well... it kinda sucks doesn't it.  Ironic that there are so many rules concerning seemingly insignificant things when there are bigger battles in the world raging and going unattended. I like your plan b. I think your horse barn idea is a good cost effective way to resolve the zoning and income issue. It also would bring a chance to get to know some new people who have interests like your own.  It would be sad to lose the tenants since they're good ones but maybe they would keep in touch and visit from time to time.  Life just keep throwing more curve balls I guess and we need to be willing to adjust to the changes. They can be good through I think if we don't let ourselves go into panic mode. You're already considering weighing possibilities concerning the property. Hp can help guide your decisions.  Odaat (((debilyn))) TT



-- Edited by tiredtonite on Saturday 6th of September 2014 09:53:51 AM

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Listening, Debilyn.....hugs!

 



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My son and I talked. I put an ad in about horses here and a great place for gardens. people can fence in their own areas, make raised beds. I am not far from town but it is very country.

Got one person already interested!

I am thinking to just make a flat good place up top behind the trees for tenants. I have a neighbor who I an pay to do it.then just drag in this rock to keep it stable. Its very rocky up there.

HP always helps me. I am so blessed. YES I do not appreciate anyone telling me what I can and cannot do on my land. rrrrrrr. If someone wants to live or NEEDS to live in their rv they should be able to! Plus this one is nice and they have it and a nice front yard!

thank you you guys, its just life stuff. helps to get feedback and to spit it out... hugs



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I love the idea of garden plots....so needed!  Your land will be happy to produce and sustain.



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Hi Debilyn - sending big Alanon hugs! I also love the idea of the horses and gardens.

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