Peaks and valleys big time..... - Al-Anon Family Group

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Peaks and valleys big time.....

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear Breaking Free, I admire your strength and use of program tools Your acceptance of life on life's terms with such courage, serenity and wisdom is a huge testament to your hard work. Prayers and positive thoughts

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

BF: Many prayers, many hugs and many reminders to take it one day at a time and that we are with you through it all. I am glad you have a good support system and that your bf is a big help and support to you, too. With your past medical history, I can certainly understand your very valid concerns. I also find it pretty serendipitous that you get the HPV news that requires you to see a doctor who is concerned about the CA possibility. Given the reality that today's screens are much more sensitive than years prior and the body is a dynamic organ that is sloughing off bad cells consistently, I am hopeful that what I'm assuming will be the normal procedure for cervical biopsy reveals a negative result for you. Greenpath might be able to help you with reducing the charges on your credit card if you're interested in talking with them about it? They are a reputable non-profit that might be able to at least talk with you about what they might be able to do for you at no cost initially?

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

BF....so much to deal with. I am glad you have good support through your new friend. I hope for positive outcomes. Hugs and prayers.

andromeda · ~*Service Worker*~

I admire your strength with all the good and the bad going on! Praying for your HPV scare issue and all the other things that are coming up for you! HUGS!!!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh geez honey that is a lot! Life sure but too much at once.

you are doing well though. you have your program. you have steps you know to take. The one day at a time,how important is it. Do what you can and leave the rest.

Yes any surgery takes time to heal and for you to get back where ya feel like you. I pray things are as simple as they can be. But again, no matter what you will have to rest.

But that is not for awhile yet. Please please keep us updated.

I am glad you and boyfriend are ok. I was kinda concerned.

stupid cars. rrrrrrr. I am telling you I will always have a pick up NEVER had problems with them. credit card? eh just do your best.

Main thing is I hope you let love surround you. All you can do is what you can. I know when I was a single parent I did not let up on myself and my kids suffered. I hated working. I never planned to work. was a baking bread, canning kinda mama. shoved into being a widow was bad. I loved my students, but hated not being home and not being me. I went to college full time also.

Now i would calm down and just do what i could. if I did not feel good i would not push me so much.

I didn't have to get straight A's, but in my mind I did. Felt if I didn't I would not have all the info I needed to move on.....

Please please slow down and do your best to take care of you. Let love be your guide.

hugs!

blessed · Senior Member

Life happens while we are making other plans, but you are getting up and moving forward despite cars breaking down (as they will do), and getting ill (as we will do), and all those other day to day challenges in this thing we call life. No one is immune to life's challenges, but we can live at peace through the dirty dishes and the broken down cars. We can define our life, or allow these other things to define us. It sounds like you are defining your life and plowing ahead. Good for you.

Best wishes in school, and this new chapter in your life.

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

It IS a lot to take in and it is hard being the primary parent and try to get down time. Don't forget you in all of the other things. You got this girlfriend. :) you have a strong support system and a strong program just don't forget to ask for help along the way when you need it. I do sui much better when I do that! Hugs s :)

yanksfan51 · ~*Service Worker*~

BF:

You have a lot happening for sure--some wonderful and some to grapple with. Your strength comes through as always and you know your HP is watching out for you. We are here w you too. Many prayers coming your way.

(((BF)))

Mary

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

I am praying for you BF. Even with all that is happening to you, your strength is prevailing. Hold on to your HP. What you are going through reminds me of song--God Never Promised Us a Rose Garden. Your HP will give you the strength you need to weather this storm.

sending you great big ((HUGS))

Temple · ~*Service Worker*~

Prayers for you, Free... I hope you get a good report after your procedure. You got on it right away, and please God, may you be safe.

I admire your courage in posting about what has happened, and I hope someone who needs to see this will read it and be reminded that in today's world, s/he really does have to think about all the connections the loved one has had in the past, and all the connections all of those connections have had. And maybe it will reinforce the need to have checkups before engaging in sexual activity with a new partner. So that maybe your courage and openess will help to spare somebody else from pain and anxiety.

Blessings,
You are a Blessing
Temple

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks all, yes I do post my misfortune to make others aware of their own sexual health. I somehow made it through my exAH cheating on my overseas and through his military tours and after he got out, to date a very decent man who had a cheating wife that brought things into his life and now into mine. You have to be careful in this day and age and I am over beating myself up over it. I hope people can learn from my example and be able to work their own programs through whatever it is they have to face with their heads raised high knowing they are doing the best they can. Sending you all love and support!

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs again .. and this is why I was SOOOO FURIOUS with my STBAX .. it's one thing to put his health at risk .. to do so with mine was just NOT ok. I'm sooo sorry that you are collateral damage of someone else's cheating .. it really goes to show .. you sleep with everyone your partner has slept with which is REALLY scary. The fact I still have kids to raise is what really puts me on edge about dating and relationships .. especially as I get older. Some people have no respect for themselves forget about having respect for others. My sexual health is not ok to risk I'm worthy of respecting myself and others that way.

In no way should you or anyone else beat themselves up for someone else's behavior .. I'm just sorry you even have to deal with this. I learn so much from you and I'm so glad you are brave and have such a great program to draw from!!

Hugs S :)

Tossed Salad · Veteran Member

I will keep you in my prayers.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

I wish you the best for your procedure breaking. Keep your chin up.x

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

Prayers coming your way that all will go well with your health and the doctors can be aggressive at getting you well. Your health is the most important right now.

((( hugs )))

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