The boundaries are for you not him. If you want to give it two weeks, great, then as you said it, you must stick to it.

I will tell you ultimatums do not work and he will probably not be able to comply.

He is very sick, its up to him to get well when he is ready. When we enable by supporting them it only makes it longer until he may get to where he will be sick of how it is and can change it.

So two weeks and he is out. Good. Then he may feel the consequence of the behavior like we all have to.

This disease lives to suck everyone around it dry. And it will if we let it.

It makes no difference what we want. The A is going to do what they are. What makes him think he has to get a job? He has you to support him. If one does not stick to the boundary then they know we don't mean what we say....

when he asks what he can do or poor me, I said yes it is a hard disease, up to you to figure it out. period. NOT my problem. Just isn't your side of the street.

Pity party does not work with me. I am tough with them. They are not children they are adults. Sadly they are he age they were when they started using, but us babying them, enabling the behavior is not doing them any favors.

You sound strong and determined, good! Take care of you, don't allow this disease to take you down, as it will.

keep coming!