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While abf is acting miserable for the 2days I'm haveing a time staying calm with my temper I wasnt calm yesterday with him and he said he would lave so I let him go he came back steady on his cell ph. Agin I finally asked him what who he was texting he said nobody he was trying to pull up porn. On his ph.he never has looked atorn or cared anything about it this is the 3rd time I've found him looking at porn in the last few weeks.he stays in bed a lot says his back hurts I told him laying in bed will make it worse he knows that just an excuse his behavior is bad I'm gonna paint a smile on today and focus on my alanon and step work and maybe go visiting just for today,and not get pulled into any aguement or allow him to pick a fight with me .today I'm gonna enjoy,it's not gonna be easy but I'll try abf affection toward me has gone out the window also he acts like he is dead to me guess he is miserble I'm got stuff to do today.thanks for letting me ramble on.this is just soo hard.to deal with I've never dealt with this before.repeating serenity prayer over and over.



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I look up at my abf and he looking at me like he has been abuse by me or I'm crazy or something,I dunno if I should be trying to comfort him in his whatever he is going through bad back etc. or what and how should I be acting toward him I dunno I'm been just keeping my focus on me and my yorky ,I don't know what else to do,I'm concerned about groceries here and I told him yesterday that whoever he keeps texting that to tell them to buy some grub to put in here.that we can't eat his cells.he got smart and said oh I will I will.i asked him several times yesterday what was wrong with him he say oh nothing just nothing .im not asking him agin.just go about my bus. I guess like he ain't here unless he wants to talk .i don't know what's going on with him.

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Lu I am glad you are planning on taking care of yourself and your puppy. I know it is not easy, but using the tools like, the serenity prayer helped me to walk with courage, serenity and wisdom.

You do not have to disregard him or his pain. You can offer an aspirin and suggest that he rest and then go about your day.

Prayers for your day.

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dearest porn, gambling, drugs etc all affect apart of the brain for pleasure. Its all part of their addiction.

you are thinking and doing well. hugs



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