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Katy · ~*Service Worker*~

what to call this next thread?

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Maybe you could call it freedom. I feel that way too, I had to live in the dark to know the difference and to be able to see myself clearly. Your friends gift is huge and you might find your a bit of a gift for her too.x

milkwood · ~*Service Worker*~

Katy,
When I give to others I am really giving myself a gift as well. Perhaps it is the same for your friend. Perhaps she is happy to be able to use her resources to help you? And perhaps in accepting her gift your own strength will be restored and one day you'll be able to pass it forward? There is something beautiful about accepting gifts in our lives and I know for me it opens my soul when I can do that. That is not to say that sometimes it is difficult. If someone gave me a gift today I would probably burst into tears at the kindness of it but that is just my low self-esteem talking!

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Katy I believe all life is a lesson When we learn the lesson in a situation we move on. There is a reading in the ODAT from

Tennyson In Memoriam--- It states

That men may rise on stepping-stones
Of their dead selves to higher things.

Keeping an open mind, becoming teachable, learning gratitude and trust in HP were the lessons I needed to learn and alanon gave me the tools to do so. I made my hubby my HP and that was not correct--- He was just a human trying to figure it all out as well. Learning to accept and trust were also lessons I needed.
You are going fine. Keep sharing and listening.

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blessed · Senior Member

A freind of mine had to teach me to accept gifts, when at the time I did not. I was also a giver, but a not a good reciever. I thought I could take care of myself and was somehow weak if I accepted help, or even a small gift. She said to me one day, after I declined a gift for the umpteenth time, "You are robbing me of a blessing." I then accepted her gift.

God uses His people to help others. I love to say, "we are blessed to be a blessing." It is okay to accept a gift and say, "thank you."

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Wise and insightful post, Katy.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Receiving is the same as giving, Katy. Both are blessings. Sometimes, we get out of balance with the giving part and life offers us opportunities to adjust that. The good thing about life for me is that nobody stands over me with a stopwatch telling me I've only got so much time to learn something I need to learn. For me, I'm always right on schedule in the living and learning and growing department. Maybe that is true for you, too?

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes! I went and stayed with a friend for a while when I left my ex-A. It was the best move of my life. It was also scary and radically different than anything I'd done before. If I look back, I think that is when I stopped settling for less than I wanted out of life and began working towards being the person I wanted to be and I guess I surrendered more to my HP's will too. I didn't know where it was all going to lead, but clinging to an alcohol fueled horrible relationship was not what my HP had in store for me any longer and I finally accepted that and made some difficult, but ultimately amazing and freeing changes.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

katy think about how good it feels when you give to others.

Now ask yourself, should you accept her gift?

to not is robbing her of the good feelings of giving.

When a kid offers something always take it. A wise woman, a school secretary taught me this.hugs hugs!

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