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unicornhunter


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I posted this past weekend about my alcohol wife threatening suicide and being taken to the psych hospital based on that threat. Thank you all for your support. After she was released and found her way back home she made some small efforts to small talk. I wasn't feeling it and brushed her off. I had too much anger, frustration, and diss appointment to talk to her. I don't expect an apology for her behavior but now we haven't talked since. I miss being able to talk to someone but I don't miss talking to her. I don't feel guilt and I am not sure I can love her again at this point. I feel nothing positive toward her and I would like to think I am ready to move on and file divorce. I feel that she knows this and while in the past she has made attempts to reconcile our disputes this time I think she has accepted that her words are worthless without actions. But that's just my gut feeling. I appreciate that she has basically stayed out of my way since Sunday. I've come and gone as I pleased and I haven't even told her bye or I am home. Like she's a ghost really. She somehow appears to have hurt her ankle since she was released but I don't even care. I feel like she's probably making her ankle appear worse than it is to get some kind of compassionate response from me. I just feel like she already had a compassionate husband but it meant nothing when I was compassion at about her disease so why should I care about a superficial ankle sprain. Should I be talking to her? Does it even matter? Thanks for letting me share.

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I believe you should be doing what is right for you. If you need time to think and some space, so be it. You can talk later.

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I believe in the,"To Thine Own Self be True."

My mother told me once that for her, when she was done, she was done. My daddy's cheating was it. She had had it. When they were raising us things were very ok and happy.Maybe she did not know yet?

Doesn't matter. I am the same way, when i reach a certain point, nothing will change my mind. Even if i want to! i let go some very wonderful men due to something I could not accept. Lying from the boy I was with all thru hi school and on, my love just ended! Another was a betrayal of not being there for me when he was a huge part of the obstacle.

My xah I divorced in 09 I think, he is a drunk. He begged me with love letters saying we could make it work. He was in jail. I gave it a lot of thought and said ok. He got out and went to this old womans place. Never came home again.I felt less than nothing. I had been in love with him my whole life, but this was not the man i married who was so good to me. My best friend.

So I relate so much to you. Sadly they will say anything do anything to keep us to babysit them, support them, they do not want to go down alone.

You sound very sure. I would  give it time and make sure this is truly it and not just mad from the last boloney. Sounds pretty clear to me.

Whatever you decide you can bet we support you.  This family is what got me thru some bad, bad times when I had AH leave. I don't even grieve for him anymore. But i do grieve for my first husband who was killed in 81 from being drunk and got run over.

She needs to realize she has lost something dear and pull herself back up. She is an adult. its up to her!

sending you lots of support. coming here will help you!



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Me, too. When I'm done. I'm done. It takes me awhile to form the words I know I need to say as simply and as directly as I can but once I get to where I'm not feeling angry, I'm just feeling like it is time to say goodbye and mean it, I do it and I don't change my mind. Sending you loads of support.

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