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Good question, for me when im in crisis mode and my feelings are all over the place, I try not to isolate myself, you are reaching out here which helps you get support and keeps it out in the open. I would write out the slogans and use them, if you have any alanon phone numbers use them, write it all out and try and think of it logically rather than emotionally, if you can. Maybe work on why thjs guy is so important to you, in my experience when I felt this desperate needy way, it was not really about bim, it was about what was going on in my own head and the good thing is that can be changed if you work alanon.
Maybe finding an in person Alanon sponsor at one of your Alanon meetings or if you already have one, calling them as often as you feel you need to for support and guidance with working the steps of the program could help with keeping your serenity and making decisions concerning your future. I really like getting out of the house and meeting my sponsor for a cup and to talk when something's really troubling me and getting an in person hug from her too. ((hugs)) TT
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