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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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I began going to Al-Anon meetings about a month ago. I have lived with an active alcoholic for the passed 15 years, and it has gotten bad these passed 3or 4 years. I never considered myself having a problem until I began attending the meetings and reading Al-Anon literature. Wow, what an eye opener for me. I believe with all my heart that God has lead me to Al-Anon. The slogan that I am having the most trouble with is "Let go and Let God." I don't know how to let go. For the passed 15 years, I have tried to control my husband's drinking. Many, many times in prayer, I have told God that I was giving this over to Him. I could no longer carry this burden, but I still find myself trying to "fix" my husband. I keep reminding myself of the three Cs. What I need most are prayers from those who understand what I am struggling with.
Thank you so much and God Bless you all!
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Look for the rainbow after the storm, and I'm sending you a double dose of HOPE. H-hold O-on P-pain E-ends
Welcome I am so happy that you found alanon face to face meetings and are attending. I love all the slogans as they were my "Go to" tools for my first year in program.
I agree with Catherine's understanding. I used the slogan "Let go and Let God" when ever I was obsessing over someone or something, trying to force my will, when I was too angry, was dwelling on my resentments, or feeling sorry for myself.
The "let go" stated that I was willing to to stop the negative focus," let God" acknowledged my faith that I should let God in to work on the problem. I could not just say it once but repeatedly until the obsession lifted. I then said the serenity prayer over and over. God will do for us what e cannot do for ourselves. and this is all a process. Alanon telephone calls and meetings also helped to let go as well
I might take a little time but you can and will let go. I thought I couldn't do it but with practice, practice, practice I did. Even now 2 years later I still have my days but I stop, check my motives before speaking. My signature below helps me.....my HP helps me.
Keep coming back because you are not alone...
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
I agree with Cathyinaz, practice. Habits are hard to break especially when they are old ones. I have gone through Alanon and then I have quit going and then these habits come back. And then I come back to Alanon and kick myself for ever leaving. But give yourself time and patience - you can do it.
Prayers :) I know I have to be gentle with myself. The longer I've been in the program the less I try to control, but I still try to control occasionally and perhaps I always will. I need to be gentle with myself, I tried to control and fix for thirty nine years. I am human...I'm making progress. Every time you are aware you are not controlling :) pat yourself on the back and celebrate :) progress not perfection :) Hugs~ keeping you in my prayers :)
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I needed these behaviors in my past they helped me survive I'm finding new and better ways to not just survive but thrive
Welcome! Thank you for your share...in time, what seems confusing and impossible will become clear as you stay in the al anon conversation. I was lost for a long time, and still am, at times ( especially when I think "I got this stuff ")
