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Feeling the pain of unacknowledged thank yous. I recently gave some gifts to four of my grandchildren.....not one said thanks. Hurts. As they involved some hard work and sacrifice. Smacks of doing for the alcoholic and receiving nothing but contempt in response. Is there something wrong with my twisted thinking?
Rusty Angel I am sorry that you were not shown the courtesy and appreciation that your gifts and sacrifice deserved. I have a friend who experienced the same. They called the Grand children and their mom and explained that a Thank You for a gift was simple courtesy and if they did not express appreciation for a gift, in the future there would be no more gifts.
He has since received a "Thank You "for each gift or card he sends We do teach people how to treat us and can ask for what we need without saying it mean
I have to give with no expectations of a thank you, just because I want to. I also have to understand that not everyone has been conditioned to say Thank you when receiving a gift. I have to check in before I buy or give a gift, what are my motives?
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It is disappointing to put a lot of effort into finding gifts that will really please someone and not even receive a thank you. Unfortunately, I think it's becoming more common to not have manners.
Unfortunately, I have this issue with my sis in law who is old enough to know the right thing to do. I continue to send her something for her birthday and holidays anyway. My brother recognizes my b'day and the holidays and sends a gift from both of them.
Out of respect for the fact that she's his wife and he loves her, I send her something and no longer expect an acknowledgment of the gift. It's how I've chosen to practice the principles of the program. I do what feels right for me without expectation of how it will be received and I keep moving forward from that place of good energy instead of growing a resentment about it the way I use to. The truth is I remember how she was before she became so steeped in her disease and I love her so I keep that thought in front when I acknowledge her day. We can't change other people's behavior only our reaction to it. Do what you feel honors you as a person. To thine own self be true.((hugs)) TT
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I pretty much do the same as you all...give with out expectations and then not give when an acknowledgement isn't given. I'd like to know if they got it whether they are grateful for not is pretty much up to them right? ....
I don't expect gratitude but I do want acknowledgement of a gift from my children and grandson especially when I know that they are receiving what they've told me they wanted. I don't want them to believe that I just love giving gifts and all their job is is to receive them without a word of acknowledgment. I think that trains people to be rude and insensitive to others. I have given gifts for nieces and nephews who have invited me to weddings and graduations which are usually checks. If they cash the check and don't acknowledge it, the next thing I am invited to, I send them a card. I know their parents. We grew up together. I know that all of us were taught to consider a gift giver worthy of our time in the return acknowledgement of a gift. I don't owe nieces and nephews anything just because I'm invited to something that is important to them but I give anyway. They don't owe me anything either, but it is still important to receive a gift and acknowledge it if you've asked for it and they are asking for it with the invitations that they do take the time to send. I'm "old school" on that and I don't think that's a bad thing.
When I give gifts because I want to give a gift, than to me the acknowledgement is my giving a gift because I want to give it. Then, I am comfortable with no response.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 30th of June 2014 08:22:35 PM
