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Well things have not got any better to much has happen since my last update . 2 weeks ago my A ex started to harass me again on the phone . I could not take any more verbal abuse I could not take any more how I ruined the marriage . I have a RO on him and I not once made a phone call to police all these times he bother me .. I final got tired of hearing how I ruined our marriage how I gave up to soon and I didn't want to work on us when I plainly told him we were done due to the harm this sobriety caused us . I asked to be separated from him to get better I could not do it with him living with me I was not able to focus on me because he wanted me to focus on us and I was not ready to do that . 2 weeks ago my A became active again and became ugly and nasty worst then he was when he was a dry drunk which he still says he wasn't it was just my attitude that made him appear that way.. The fact that he told the police officer who he takes to that day he was badgering me to F off and tell him to my his own buisness the police officer told him he will be served a warrent for his arrest if he come in my town again before next court date.. My husband decided to drop off court papers at the court house and tell them he will not be showing up to court on Friday for the divorce because he will be arrested .. MY WHOLE POINT IS HERE . That his active drinking again has made him more sick then the first time he stopped, he basically turned himself in by telling them he was not going to court . He is now serving 2 to 5 years jail time , due to obsession to control me since he could not control himself . His drinking got the best of him made him do really bad things , he was living with his brother while he was on probation from the first time he was arrested . So how does this affect me ? I now not only lost my husband but I'm losing my home my car my health insurance no job everything is about to shut off and my healing process has taking back seat again . All my focus has come off of me and now needs to be on my kids and need to worry about all I'm losing , I don't get my time to Heal and recover from this I back in the whirl pool that alcoholism toss me in . This time I'm totally alone . The only good thing is he is safe and behind bars where he will get all the help he needs and he won't be able to drink .. This is ROCK BOTTOM . Any help words of wisdom and hope and encouragement is needed right now since I'm lost for hope .
I am so very sorry to read of this Wisdom. There is help available, so please search out the Social Services available in your community and call. You are not alone as there are those among us who have been there and who truly understand. Prayers for you and your family
Our experiences good or bad continue to help us heal..
I know it all is overwhelming right now, but you will come up shining, because the only place you can go is up.
HP will put you where you belong. You are beginning a new journey and in order for the new one to begin, the old heavy doors need to
close on the old one.
Continue every morning to ask your HP to guide you. Wishing you all the best.
Wisdom, I'm somewhat confused. Are you saying you would rather he drink than be sober ? And, If he was out of the house and you didn't want him living with you, how is that losing your husband ?
Sorry this all went down this way wisdom. Sounds horrible. I don't think it was sobriety that caused harm but part of a bigger set of issues and problems that wound up exploding. Stay strong. Keep up with alanon. Support is good.
