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el-cee


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I decided to change my avatar to embrace my feminine side, do you like my picture? She was the only feminine or sexy chicken I could find, who would have thought there was a shortage of feminine chickens?

Anyway, I want to put recent events behind me and remain grateful to be a member of this fellowship and this forum.

Usually, during times of crisis, or conflict, (crisis may be too dramatic) I learn a lot about myself and others too.  I have learned that my first reaction to people or unkindness or injustice, (well my own interpretation of that) is usually emotional and the emotion that comes first is anger, while in this mindset I can get myself into all sorts of trouble, (again my own interpretation) this emotion passes quite quickly but usually im left with some cleaning up to do. lol.

Please don't get me wrong I am glad I have learned this about myself, it furthers my understanding of me which can only be a good thing. There is a bit of me, I have learned that I actually like in this. I like that I reach out and talk to others and my mind is open enough that I can hear them, that wasn't always the case, another gift from Alanon. I like that I can say sorry easily, another gift from Alanon. Before, I was always right so what do I have to say sorry for? Today, I can look at me and see where I have went wrong and I can say sorry. Of course, this takes a little bit of time.

After anger comes a little bit of self pity, poor me, look what they did to me, im a victim. During this process I find it hard to see myself and others objectively, im a bit lost in the anger and self pity. 

The good news, or great news is that when I let it go through talking to fellow alanoners, the light  and truth floods back in and Im back in reality again. I have regained my power. 

During this latest conflict or crisis or whatever, I wanted to throw in the towel and cancel my membership then I reached out and found that I have friends here that actually help bring me back into reality and get me back on my program. This place is never going to be perfect, but its good for me so Im staying. like it or lump it. lol. I think that our program gives us the strength to deal with anything in our personal lives and here, so I think we will continue as a united group helping each other and newcomers to the best of our ability.

I realise this sounds like a manifesto or something, im sorry about that, but thats how I feel right now. I hope you will take what you like and leave the rest.x



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I love your avatarsmile.  Your openness in sharing your process, working the 12 steps and coming to a choice that is in your best interest is a beacon of light for all of us...oldies and newbies.  Shadows, our dark sides, were illuminated in some of us through this process of the last few days.  What I did not see in myself in the daylight was brought to my attention as I was sleeping.  HP will get my attention however she can.  Well done, and thank you elcee.



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I like having you here Elcee

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el-cee


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Thanks PP and Milkwood, I like having you here too. I need it, Im a beginner and still learning. I think I have became a little obsessive, again that's one of my defects. I am going to try and be a bit more detached but I still want to pass on what Ive learned and soak up what others are willing to give.x

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ah you are one sexy chick! (c:

You are one of the ones that shares and it glows when ya do of your progress!

Years ago I suppose I got emotional to more of a sad me. Disappointed.

Now I honestly do my best to look at it in the most loving eyes I can. I don't mind saying wait a minute for me this is...... I own it.

Takes abuse, that type of thing to anger me, then I think about ok what skills do we need here?

We honestly can choose how we react. After awhile that becomes our norm.

thank you for sharing!Hey I gotta a lot of very handsome roosters on my place!!!!



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Great decision and program work  LC ---Not to compete with you LC but I believe mine is prety awesome as well!!!



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LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

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I love you being a part of our MIP family el-cee and love all the pictures of the beautiful chicks here!



-- Edited by Breakingfree on Wednesday 11th of June 2014 03:35:00 PM

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el-cee


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Thank you, thats really nice. glad to be here with you too.x

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