I don't know what's going on??? - Al-Anon Family Group

lookingup · ~*Service Worker*~

I don't know what's going on???

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

He probably will not bring the meds back, lup. I don't know anything about those meds and I hope you are able to get them re-filled? I've never experienced any meds being stolen from me and I have experienced having money stolen from me. That was the last time I let that person into my home, car or personal life. I couldn't change the disease that is always looking for its next fix, dollar or codependent. I could change my response to that person and being sweet wasn't it. I told them I knew they'd taken what belonged to me, they needed help, and until they got that help there would be no more opportunity for them to steal from me. I also suggested that if they showed up at my home, I would call the police and have them arrested for trespassing. I won't let somebody steal from me once and give them the opportunity to do it again. The disease is what it is. I won't change it. I don't have to be around it. A couple stole my purse from me in a parking lot. I called the police. They were caught. I suspect they thought because they saw the name of the organization on the van I was driving that if they said they were "godly people" when they were caught and had "prayed about what they had done," I might not press charges. Wrong. I pressed charges. I suggested jail time, AA, repaying the money they stole and the cost of the property contained within it, and community service at the request of the Prosecuting Attorney who wanted me to include for the judge what I'd like to see happen in the sentencing phase. I don't allow people to steal from me without consequence to them.

-- Edited by grateful2be on Saturday 17th of May 2014 06:14:49 PM

Jill · ~*Service Worker*~

When that happened to me, I called the police and reported the robbery. The police came to my house within 3 minutes. I told them what was missing and what I suspected.
I didn't get it back.
I didn't re-connect with the thief.
I called my insurance company, gave them the police incident file number, and they authorized another refill.
So sad!

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Explain to your doctor honestly what happened. Klonopin (AKA Clonazepam) is generic so the med will be like 30 bucks even without insurance. Insurance or medicaid won't cover it if it is too close to the last fill date as it is a controlled substanc. Seriously though, you can have a seizure if you just stop taking that med. Plus he committed a crime is just a plain old drug dealer and would be safer and get needed services in jail anyhow. You don't need to play games with him at all. Talk to your doctor and authorities if need be. I was in this situation having taken that exact med and my Abf at the time stole them but not to sell. He overdosed on them and I had to call 911 and he got committed to the mental ward for a week. My doctor was understanding. FYI that drug is highly addictive so be cautious and don't go up on it if you can help it. Just my suggestions based on experience...

Beatrice · Senior Member

I so agree with Grateful, good for you.

So sad that we have to experience the consequences of living with an active addict, but we only have to experience it once to learn.

I'm sure you learned the lesson looking up, I hope you can get some of your meds back....

Just keep coming back, that is the most important thing you can do.

Hugs,

Bettina

Mattie · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm sorry this is happening. It is very painful.

What I notice is that he came over and in interacting with him and his craziness, you began to feel so anxious that you wanted your anxiety meds. So he and his behavior were the thing that brought on the bad anxiety. But now you're thinking about interacting with him some more, in an effort to reduce your anxiety (by getting the meds back). It sounds, though, as if being around his craziness increases the anxiety. So dealing with him more will make things worse, not better. Sort of like you've been burnt, so you head back into the burning building to fix it.

If he's like my A, he's already taken those anxiety meds. And if he's like my A, the best way to achieve calm is to stay far away from him.

Take good care of yourself. Hugs!

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

A's do what A's do and we have to learn to focus on and protect ourselves from their disease. Once someone violates my trust this way since I have found al-anon I do not give them a second chance. Unacceptable behavior is just that, you fed him and the thanks you get is getting stolen from, not really sure why you need to play nice. The police are more likely able to retrieve your medication then you and that is what they are trained to do, try to return peoples stuff to them when it is stolen. I am glad you are here and I hope you have face to face meetings and some al-anon local support also. Sending you love and support!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I would call the police and have him arrested. I don't play that game anymore.

He is an A, needs to suffer his consequences. when i realized the only time mine was nice was when he was just scamming or stealing to get my meds, that was that.

They are insane! Once i told my A here take these, I gave him a bunch of stuff like he always took. Guess what? He thought I had given him aspirin etc, he said he felt nothing from the ones he took. they are insane honey....

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