After much denial we realized my son has relapsed and found the proof yesterday.  He has one week to get out.  We are not yelling and screaming, just told him that he must leave and he agrees.   He is 33 years old.  He once again used all of his money from work to buy drugs and alcohol.  He got out of rehab in January and was doing well, but we suspect he's been back about a month.  I feel like I have been kicked in the stomach.  I got a glimpse of the person he was meant to be for that very short time he was sober. I know I must be strong and let go and let God and I am determined as I know it is the only way he has a chance of getting better is if I live my own life.  I fully realize there is nothing I can do so that is why I was able to avoid all the drama.  He's got to get out and do it on his own.  It's a relief that he is leaving as I really can't go on this way.  He was saving to move out, but now this has sped up the inevitable.  It's going to be a tough week but I have to get through this and live a normal life.  I can't take this anymore.  Thanks for listening.  Pam