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neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

its starting to sink in

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

That is so true and why hurt people hurt other people. Love this post! Sending you love and support!

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

hey Breaking...

I saw this , my sister of my heart posted this on my wall on facebook and its soo appropriate....my bio sister is trying to find a way to "inch" back in my life and I just DON"T want her....

I forgave her, I let go of the resentment, etc., i just don't WANT her...plain and simple.....forgiveness does not mean i want them back or could ever trust them again, forgiveness is just letting go the hate/resentment and seeing that what she has done to me is a reflection of her, not a definition of me.......

hope u are doing ok.....i posted on your post....it was very interesting about the intimacy thing...i really can relate to you

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

oh I really like this!

it fits well. I was just at the store and saw the creeps who did $40,000 damage on my home. I had to stop myself from asking him why did he shoot out all the windows in my barn??? idiot. no I didn't do it..whew!

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

So true!

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn wrote:
oh I really like this!
it fits well. I was just at the store and saw the creeps who did $40,000 damage on my home. I had to stop myself from asking him why did he shoot out all the windows in my barn??? idiot. no I didn't do it..whew!

WOW, some stinking p.o.c shot out your windows??? and it was 40k worth of damage??? holy moly.....here in TX if I saw someone doing that in MY property, I could shoot em down and be done w/them.....we have a "stand your ground" law where if one threatens me or comes on my property and tries to damage, I can get my gun, and put em down if they don't leave..........anyone who would do that to a lady trying to help animals don't need to be in decent society...needs to be in a cage somewhere.......sooo sorry this happened to you.......

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi nesh, when someone treats me badly, like an alcoholic in my life might treat me badly, then I know it comes from a place within them, their pain, suffering. Its definately their problem, my job is to have boundaries. I dont view it like that is the human being they are, that seems so final to me. We are all made up of many different parts, so even if someone is very very nice to you, its not necassarily the human that they are. They also have the potential like everyone to behave badly. Alcoholics can be the nicest people in the world sober. I think every human has good and bad. To me, its about trusting ourselves enough to know that if someone treats us badly we have so many choices, if its hurtful words, we can choose to take that hurt on, we can tell them we will not be listening to any crap and we walk away if they continue. Only people who choose to lie down gets walked on. Its a choice to be a habitual victim. Its not realistic to only surround ourselves with people who we perceive as good or healthy or whatever. We cant possibly know what makes up one person from another. Thanks, that was very thought provoking to me.x

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

el-cee wrote:
Hi nesh, when someone treats me badly, like an alcoholic in my life might treat me badly, then I know it comes from a place within them, their pain, suffering. Its definately their problem, my job is to have boundaries. I dont view it like that is the human being they are, that seems so final to me. We are all made up of many different parts, so even if someone is very very nice to you, its not necassarily the human that they are. They also have the potential like everyone to behave badly. Alcoholics can be the nicest people in the world sober. I think every human has good and bad. To me, its about trusting ourselves enough to know that if someone treats us badly we have so many choices, if its hurtful words, we can choose to take that hurt on, we can tell them we will not be listening to any crap and we walk away if they continue. Only people who choose to lie down gets walked on. Its a choice to be a habitual victim. Its not realistic to only surround ourselves with people who we perceive as good or healthy or whatever. We cant possibly know what makes up one person from another. Thanks, that was very thought provoking to me.x

Hey el-cee, i would agree w/this MOST of the time...however, folks like my bio sister get a pleasure out of others suffering....she LOVES giving pain to others...if u could have seen her joy when she took my brother's meds (prescribed for seizures) and withheld them until he was beginning to go into seizure....I told him to report her to the police, but he would not do it......not my business, but to enjoy suffering??? I cannot relate to that one bit......there ARE just BAD people out there and i accept it...no denial on my part...there are wounded and there are just plain "dark" forces out there in two feet......I don't take anything on anymore re: others, i just leave...walk away....keep my distance or cut off contact all together......and yes, its a choice to be a victim, which I chose NOT to be.......

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