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texasgal


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I've had a bad week with work and personal life. My doorbell rang several times with no one at the door I finally called cops and made a report. My soon to be exah was violent and I did it for my own protection. My soon to be exAH has been posting pics of him and his young gf and saying how much she makes him smile all the time, etc. Then my boss called me in to ask me abt rumors going around and that I need to be more positive and smile all the time. I thought I was being positive and smiling but they said they wanted more. Im not a clown their for their entertainment. And I did not bother to address rumors I just stated what I felt abt myself and my position their. Ugg I feel bombarded with all the negativity and craziness. I have 2 more weeks at my job and in a month I start my new one. I'm so grateful for program friends. I have been on phone alot with many of my AlAnon group. It helps so much to know I'm not alone and they help me so much to just talk out situations and I'm held responsible for my part in these situations.

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tiredtonite


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You know, I think hp sometimes does for us what we can't do for ourselves.  I'm reading your post and thinking this is where I am right now as I get readily mentally to go into work for another day in a pretentious workplace.  I'm friendly too at work but I'm not a phony.  If I was, I wouldn't be true to myself or working an honest program.  

Who knows what your soon to be former boss' motive is for saying something like that.  You know who you, no need to secondguess that. Congratulations on your new job, incidently.  I hope it's everything you're wishing for. 

As  far as your violent ex saying his new "young" gf makes him smile all the time, well... you can pray for her and detach from his comments.  Isn't it interesting how much time people spend being manipulative in their actions and words to get someone's attention or retaliate?  I think you were smart to call the cops about the doorbell.  Keep taking care of yourself. You're worth it. 

And geez, could smile a little more??? wink  That's was a joke of course.  (((hugs)))  TT



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grateful2be


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I love that you are choosing to be you and not who others want you to be. It helps me remember to leave others alone and focus on my self, stay in the day, and do my best to be the person that I am and not a people pleaser. I am writing this without a smile on my face, too. (Grin)

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Debilyn


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You dear one are doing just fine! Heck with him and so what, rumors? Give me a break like you have control over that? Rumors are gossip and that is evil. NOT your problem. I would have told him or her that. He or she is an idiot.

well I am being a bit rough eh? I want you to just do your best. Life is hard, very hard.

You do have us, we love you. I have faith in you! love!!!



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Breakingfree


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I have my exAh's family all blocked from me seeing their fb posting as well as me being able to see their stuff, for just that reason. It would not help me to see any of that and I am all about taking care of me and keeping myself in a serene place. I hope your new job and fresh start are all you want it to be. Sending you love and support!

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