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Gaby


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My son has not made no contact with me .. Yes he ecknowledged Mother's Day and sent me a private message through Facebook. I have made my days better and remind myself that these are his choices he is making. I have no control of him nor do I want it. I always thought I would have control of any of his outcomes. A lot of hard knocks and I come to realize I have no control of nobody's outcomes not even my own. God does. I have surrendered and gave my son to god. I will pray for him and take care of me. My son knows rock bottom and knows how to get back up but he has to want it. It hurts me as his mother but I have another child that needs me too. I will continue to pray for serenity and pray for my son. I just needed to really let this out. God bless. I'm doing face to face meetings and attending a lot of support meetings. I will walk with faith.

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Hi, Gaby: Glad you're going to meetings and taking care of you. Those are things you do have control over and I'm happy to see you know where to find help and are going for it. Good for you.

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Good for you Gaby!!...get as much literature as you can and keep your eyes open for a sponsor...someone who is wiling to help you walk this journey.   ((((hugs)))) smile



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Debilyn


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It is heart breaking Gaby. Especially when it is your child.As time passes and you make a habit of giving him to your HP, it won't feel so raw.

We want our kids to be happy, motivated. Be part of our lives! It does hurt when they are not.

I am glad you are working on your serenity.



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Cathyinaz


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It's sad but no contact just might be right thing for you at this moment. It's time to work and take care of you so your in a better frame of mind to support your son if he go's back to recovery. Your doing good so continue to practice your program because it's the best gift you can give your son right now.

Keep coming back and let us support you because we care about you and your son. What we can do to help you will help your son in the long run. He has to figure this out by himself in hopes to live a drug free life someday.

Prayers my friend...Let go Let God.

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I go with what I know is hard enough .. what I don't know is probably better that I don't know .. hugs S :) Good for you on taking care of you!!

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With some situations and people, it's hard to let go any more than one day at a time. You're doing what you can to keep your recovery and that's good. (((hugs))) TT



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Gaby you are doing really well, its so hard but allowing him the consequences of his own actions are good for him and you, its just hard to believe it sometimes.x

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Early on in my Alanon days one of the more senior members told me that God doesn't have any grandchildren. At that time it was my spouses addictions I was dealing with and I had no inkling my daughter would become an addict. That reminder about God helps me a lot as I worry about my daughter (who never contacts me now that she knows the money train has stopped). When I was part of a big Alanon group near Houston I saw many miracles with parents who thought their kids were beyond hope and help have GOOD relationships with their children when their kids got into recovery. 180 degree changes - those keep me going as any one of us could be just one day away from a miracle with our sick loved ones. Regardless of the relationship. I've found that when I take care of myself and what I can control in my own life I am able to clearly see that our HP does have a plan. I know that as a parent is is so hard to see your child suffer and I'm so sorry you are experiencing it, too. Virtual hugs to you and prayers for both you and your son.  



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