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My soon to be exAH sent me crazy text messages and phone calls yesterday. He was obviously drunk. He was on a total blame game trip and blamed me and everyone for the troubles of his own making. At first I was strong and did not engage but after the last message I told him not to contact me anymore that I was moving on with my life and he needed to resolve his own problems. He sent me a pretty nasty message and I didn't respond to him anymore. I feel sorry for him. I feel pity. I realize I don't feel love anymore. His awful words struck with me all day and effected my self esteem. After work I talked with my sponsor and I feel better abt myself. I am so very grateful to program and the friends I have made. Before I would have tried to rescue him and make him feel better and in turn I would lose myself but that is not the case today :)
Good that you recognized the only person you could rescue and help feel better was yourself. He's a big boy who can learn to do that for himself, too, if he chooses. Keep on, keepin' on, TG. Happy for you.
Good program work TG!! Right on "You don't have to attend every fight you are invited to" worked for me also. Keep coming back and passing it on. ((((hugs))))
Your post is so alanon. You are well on the road, its great stepping off that merrygoround, the world comes into focus and you can actually see the good things.x
