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As I was washing the dishes a few moments ago asking, "what do I do", I hear the words of a song "just breathe".  To me that means attend to me and stay in this moment.  The event that pushed me into this place was the news that my 11 year old granddaughter is displaying increased signs of self hate which began as cutting and is now including the early signs of anorexia (my diagnosis).  My son is an alcoholic, his wife is an alcoholic...there is aggression and denial.  I am incredibly heavy hearted, sad, frustrated and have so many emotions and I am powerless.  I am so very very powerless, however I am faith filled, loving and grateful for life, however it shows up.  Thank you for letting me share and for your loving ears. (((hugs)))



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((Paula))


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((Paula)))
I am so sorry to read of this unfortunate development . Staying in the moment, in the day, and just breathing is a wonderful way to take care of yourself.

Life certainly is not easy and I know that prayers for guidance and courage never go unanswered as HP has you and your family in the palm of His hands.
Prayers for you and your family

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I am sorry your family is gong through this. Thank goodness (HP) you have the tools of al-anon to help yourself along this bump in the road.

((( hug )))


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(((( oh Paula ))))

I'm so sorry. I will pray her parents will help her even with their problems. HP be with you today


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Hugs to you!!! I don't know much of your story but you have been a great help to me!!!! In Loving support

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Im sorry pp, so glad you have got your tools, just breathe sounds good to me.x

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oh honey that is so much to deal with! I know you will be the most loving grama, and only see those kids hearts. they need to know they can always come to you no matter what.

I am glad you let this out. my heart goes out to you! IF anyone can give those kids a lifeline it is you! hang on tight!



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((((Paula)))) prayers and love and encouragement and chocolate your way;)

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Oh, my. Paula, you and your family most certainly have my prayers and my concern. I do love how you recognized the answer to your question for guidance and shared it with us. Your trust in both your HP and the program are very apparent in your share.

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The 11 year old has a gift in her very aware and experienced Grandmother...I know you will surround her with love every chance you get.  You're an instrument of HP's love and will.  I know you know that also and I'm not preaching to the choir...maybe...do you sing?  (ooops sorry).   Really as a former therapist working with adolescents one of the tools were loving understanding family members.  Cutting is about reality,  feeling the pain and keeping it personal and it is also about dare...self harm dare connected to some self pity, martyrdom, victim act out and self centeredness.  One of my "cutters" or "hackers" would do it to distract himself from he pain outside of him.  Its real when you can associate it with the pain we also go thru and the things we have tried to distract our minds from it.   Love her anyway or better still...love them anyways.  You're good people.   (((((hugs))))) smile



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Thank you all...the time you have taken to listen and respond is golden to me.  I re read all of the responses, as they give me comfort.



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I'm sorry you and your loved ones are going through so much.  When we love someone, we just wish we could remove their pain. Your recovery is your best option for being supportive of them without losing yourself.  I hope your son and his wife find their way to the rooms and sobriety. I hope praying to your higher power will result in the words and actions that heal your granddaughter.  You're a good role model and have a gentle heart.  Maybe hp will use you to reach her.  She's still so young.  ((((hugs))))  TT



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Awe. 11 is just a baby. The only thing you can do is love her, support her growth and be a safe loving person for her, which I am pretty confident you are. There are some good treatment options and resources available, this stuff doesn't fix itself overnight. I hope her parents take this seriously. (As a mom to a wonderful child with mental health needs there are some providers that go above and beyond for these kids.) Sending love PP, and prayers.

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Sorry to hear this, I know it must be very distressing to deal with.

But because you practice the Alanon way and believe in a HP there is hope. Always keep your spirits high and only think good things. I believe that negativity breeds more
negativity. I know it is difficult to do in the midst of all the pain, but as Jerry says, "You are good people", and so is your family.

A grandparent can be such a lovely mentor, I have seen this happen.
Hugs, Bettina

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TT, MM and Bettina, thank you.



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