AH has been out of house for 7 months now.   He avoids me at all costs with reasons like "If I see you I will want you" or "It is too hard on me to see you".   Had a conversation with AH the other day and I have to say instead of letting his irrational thoughts get to me, I almost had to laugh.  I had to restrain myself from laughing at what he was telling me.  Apparently the reason he has not spent time with the kids is because it's not just me that gives him anxiety - they give him anxiety too so he does not feel comfortable being around them.  It is only in the past week that he felt comfortable being around my daughter.  Now he needs to work on his relationship with his son.   The thoughts were just crazy and the normal blaming us for his issues.   I feel bad for the kids as they really have no idea the horrible things he is saying and the irrational thoughts.  Normally in my conversations I hang up with a feeling of frustration because as we all know you cannot reason with an A.   I left this conversation with a laugh at the irrational thoughts he has and his woe is me mentality and the fact that he thinks his kids cause his anxiety.   I thank my HP today to be able to find the smallest amount of humor in a crazy situation.