The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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My name is Marisa and my husband is an AH & NA. I found this website last night when my husband was drunk and raging out. I feel like Im walking on glass. I need help because my heart is heavy. I feel like I need someone to talk too thats been in my shoes or is wearing them. My husband has been drinking since he was 15 yrs.-old and abusing prescription pills (no more) or pot. I feel stressed when he drinks because I have a six yrs. old boy now (today) that I want to protect from sees and hears that craziness. Kids are going to see and hear what you dont want them to see nor hear. I feel horrible when he hears the yelling and whats bad Im pretty sure he used to it. Im only human and I make a lot mistake. Im tired of this rollercoaster.
Aloha Marisa and welcome to the board. Yes we have worn your shoes and many of us also know what your son is going thru because we were born and raised within this insanity. First things first?...go to the white pages of your local telephone book and look for the hot line number for Al-Anon and call that number right away. It will tell you where and when the Family Groups meet in your area and I don't think you will have to drive far to get to a meeting cause I got into the program in Central Valley (Fresno) CA and there were over 400 meetings a month then both AA and Al-Anon. If you haven't been to a face to face meeting yet don't be fearful just go and take a seat and listen with an open mind. Check out the literature table and plan on going back along with coming back here for support. We know about walking on glass or egg shells because the fear aspect of the disease is powerful. Just a little bit more to support your part in it? 3Cs...you didn't cause this, you cannot control it and you will not cure it. Go and grow and let the child watch your growth. Keep coming back. (((((hugs)))))
Welcome to MIP. I am happy that you have checked out the schedule of Al-Anon meetings and plan to attend. These meetings can be attended by anyone who has lived with or lived with the problem alcoholism. Al-Anon meetings are usually attended by people will over the age of 18. Alateen is a wonderful spinoff for teenagers and their meetings are held separately.
Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease over which we are powerless. In Al-Anon I learned new constructive ways of applying my energy and commitment so that I was able to redirect myself to building successful life.
Welcome
So very glad you have taken the courage to post here. There are many loving, kind and gentle people who have experienced similar situations to what you are. You are not alone.
I have 3 children, all girls, ages 11, 7, and 19 months. Using the program tools, attending meetings when I can and having a sponsor and reading the material has helped me to remove the hopelessness I felt when I first arrived. There is hope. Please keep coming back. It truly works if you work it.
Welcome. Two things that jumped at me from your post were 'rollercoaster' and 'heart is heavy'. I (and am sure many others) have used those exact words to describe how I felt during the many years I lived with active alcoholism and all it brings, in the house. You are not alone!
Glad you are here--so much wisdom in the posts that are shared here, as well as the online meetings. I don't know if you have been to Alanon meetings (face to face) yet, but I have found those extremely helpdul as well.
