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This may be like asking the length of a piece of string BUT how long can someone survive with serious liver disease while continuing to drink? My mum has severe ascites, no appetite, has lost over three stone in weight, very shaky, cold, has difficulty walking, gets very confused and makes up things that did not happen (confabulation).
I know it is hard to get a timescale but I need to prepare other members of my family. Especially my brother who lives far away. I would hate for him to never see her again. Although I think she would hate the visit. She only likes being social which she is drinking.
I have just left after cleaning her house and discovered an impressive array of hard liquor. I feel quite idiotic I had assumed she wasn't drinking that much because she was so ill and when she did it was just wine.
From what I can see online she has the final stages of cirrhosis but I am not sure how longer this can go on.....
We aren't doctors here so who knows how long they will live with this disease. I have read in final stages of cirrhosis you can live anywhere from 2 days to 6 months. You might consult a doctor on this.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your family....prayers for her that she will not be in too much misery because its a very painful and slow death.
Take care
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Redred...final stage is enough of a statement for me that I could only participate in the process without taking a room in the mortuary. I have deep empathy for you and your family and great awareness of the confusion over it. Alcohol affects every part and organ in the body and so in final stage the body pretty well goes thru a melt down. Sad ...she is so addicted. She might be suicidal...or doing this for cause. Alcohol is a liquid depressant...its happened many times before without count. I feel sad with you. I'm thinking I would do the best I could with what I had and then just follow thru. Alcoholism is a fatal disease and it will kill without your permission or participation. Prayers for your Mom and you and your family. Let God. (((((hugs)))))
What a loving daughter you appear to be here - tending to your Mom in the ways you are choosing and considering the needs of family members, too. Many prayers for you and for your family.
Sis...I got this off a face book friend to night and thought of your Mom...I don't know but it is worth a try right? Asparagus cure...its very very old..back in the 1700s and before. Give it a read and do some more "inventory" work on it. K?
For the treatment, asparagus should be cooked before using. Fresh or canned asparagus can be used. I have corresponded with the two leading canners of asparagus, Giant and Stokely, and I am satisfied that these brands contain no pesticides or preservatives. Place the cooked asparagus in a blender and liquefy to make a puree. Store in the refrigerator. Give the patient 4 full tablespoons twice daily, morning and evening. Patients usually show some improvement in 2-4 weeks. It can be diluted with water and used as a cold or hot drink. This suggested dosage is based on present experience, but certainly larger amounts can do no harm and may be needed in some cases.
As a biochemist I am convinced of the old saying that `what cures can prevent.' Based on this theory, my wife and I have been using asparagus puree as a beverage with our meals. We take 2 tablespoons diluted in water to suit our taste with breakfast and with dinner. I take mine hot and my wife prefers hers cold. For years we have made it a practice to have blood surveys taken as part of our regular checkups. The last blood survey, taken by a medical doctor who specializes in the nutritional approach to health, showed substantial improvements in all categories over the last one, and we can attribute these improvements to nothing but the asparagus drink. As a biochemist, I have made an extensive study of all aspects of cancer, and all of the proposed cures. As a result, I am convinced that asparagus fits in better with the latest theories about cancer.
Asparagus contains a good supply of protein called histones, which are believed to be active in controlling cell growth. For that reason, I believe asparagus can be said to contain a substance that I call cell growth normalizer. That accounts for its action on cancer and in acting as a general body tonic. In any event, regardless of theory, asparagus used as we suggest, is a harmless substance. The FDA cannot prevent you from using it and it may do you much good. It has been reported by the US National Cancer Institute, that asparagus is the highest tested food containing glutathione, which is considered one of the body's most potent anticarcinogens and antioxidants.
Just a side note... In case you are wondering why this has not been made public, there is no profit in curing cancer.
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I am going over today to try and talk to her again (if my Dad gives permission). My stomach is in knots over it. I wake up thinking about it and am keeping myself crazy busy so I don't dwell or obsess so much it affects my family. Taking over a print out of end stage Cirrhosis symptoms to try and show her that this is WHAT IS MAKING HER ILL. Maybe even ask her for the whiskey I found hidden in her drawer two days ago.
I am currently trying to lose some weight and exercising a lot. I am determined not to do this to my children. To take responsibility for my health. Not have my Mums attitude that "well something has to kill you, you might as well enjoy yourself...."
I am scared she will fall put with me again like she did last time I tried to talk to her. I don't think I am being wimpy I just want a relationship with her all the way until she dies.
Hi I only seem to go online when things are bad BUT today was a REALLY GOOD DAY regarding my Mum.
We went to the Dr and had a great visit. My Dad completely backed me up and admitted how much she has been drinking. The Dr had another very strong lecture on what drinking is doing to her body and most of her medication has been changed to try to combat the ascites. Dad has also vowed never to let drink in the house again. His have NEVER happened before. Great outcome. I know it maybe too late but I feel as if now I have done everything I can to help her. To quit or not to quit is now up to her (I suppose it always was) but it will be a lot harder for her to get it now.
Anyway taking today as a victory. Will hopefully sleep better tonight.
