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Hi. I no major drama to post about, but my life is quite chaotic most of the time. I am kinda new to the Al-Anon thing, have had the chance to attend a few real meetings, but the online ones seem to be so much more convenient for me. I am married to an AH, have been for 17 years. He is still in the denial stage, actively drinking. He is highly "functioning" and holds a good job, so that supports the 'I don't have a problem' thinking. He rages at times, but has never been violent with myself or the kids. I have been lurking here for quite some time, but have decided to take it to the next level and attend meetings here. I am so lonely and lost, but I want to get better. From what I have read so far, the Al Anon program is the best way for me to do this. So, I just wanted to say hi and I hope to "meet" some of you soon. :)
Welcome to Miracles In Progress. So glad you took the courage to join us here on board. We've all been through similar situations and understand as perhaps few others can. We to were lonely and frustrated at one time. I know for myself alanon is the best thing I ever did for myself. ((Keep coming back)) we hope to hear more from you. (Mary)
Welcome Muffindog72, (love that name) I lurked for a while too, glad you got up the nerve to sign on at MIP. If you've been reading, you already know that this is a warm and friendly place to begin learning how to get YOU well. You don't have to feel lonely, you have a giant bunch of supporters now! Nice to have you along for the journey, keep coming back.
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Welcome to MIP :)
Alcoholism is indeed a progressive disease that hides under many disguises. It affects so many in so many different ways. I feel blessed to have found these message boards. Please keep coming back and sharing. Much love and support to you :)
glad you are here...welcome...I got rid or or majorally distanced myself from all the active, not in recovery A's in my life b/c it was too draining for me...but that is me...some folks leave....some folks stay..that is up to individual, however if he keeps it up the disease will take him down...job...health....maybe legal problems (DUI's ) car accidents, so now he is "ok" but eventually it will do him in....
you did right coming here b/c detachment and learning to be independent, taking care of you, letting him face his "music" w/out your interfering is what alanon teaches.....alanon teaches you to take care of you...period...it teaches you to find and be your own self, independent and separate from his drinking.....if he isn't dangerous to be around, yea, you can handle living w/him but not without alanon.....I do hope you give program a chance
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Thank you to everyone. I am pretty sure things will get worse for AH before they get better, if they get better. I do fairly well with detachment, it's the rest I have to learn. And I have been doing my research and feel like I am making slow but steady progress. I am here for support, so thank you for that.
Welcome to MIP and to Al Anon, too! So glad you feel ready to take a step and progress through your own recovery. My husband and I have been married almost 19 years and we have 1 son together. His alcoholism is more of the binge drinking kind of thing but it all spiraled out of control when he got a DUI 2 years ago. I 'expected' it to be his bottom, mostly because he declared that it was, but it was not. It was just the beginning of more lies, gas lighting, and crazy making behavior so that he could continue drinking and blame everyone else for his behavior.
Yes, it does get worse. You have come to the right place and I hope and pray that you find some great meetings near you. Try a few, find at least one that really fits your schedule best, and commit to it once a week. Al Anon has saved my sanity. I am still in my marriage today, it's not a happy place, but I myself am a happier person and I feel that Al Anon has given me the tools to make that happen for myself. Hugs and support to you today, Muffindog!
Welcome to Al-Anon and the MIP board. Glad you made the choice to help yourself, it could be the beginning of positive change for you and your family. There is a wealth of information for you to use in your every day life. I hope that the support and fellowship you find will give you what you need to find happiness.
Starting a self-help program and reading the Steps and Slogans may seem confusing at first. I found that the best way to start organizing all the new ideas was to read as much as I could on each Step. There are many books on recovery, and the "Conference Approved Literature" (CAL) will give you the Al-Anon program.
The Al-Anon "3C's" - [We didn't Cause it, We cannot Cure it, We cannot Control it] helped me to understand that as far as alcohol goes, I'm not the one in control. I'm glad you found us.
Welcome to Al-Anon and the MIP board. Glad you made the choice to help yourself, it could be the beginning of positive change for you and your family. There is a wealth of information for you to use in your every day life. I hope that the support and fellowship you find will give you what you need to find happiness.
Starting a self-help program and reading the Steps and Slogans may seem confusing at first. I found that the best way to start organizing all the new ideas was to read as much as I could on each Step. There are many books on recovery, and the "Conference Approved Literature" (CAL) will give you the Al-Anon program.
The Al-Anon "3C's" - [We didn't Cause it, We cannot Cure it, We cannot Control it] helped me to understand that as far as alcohol goes, I'm not the one in control. I'm glad you found us.
