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Hello it's been a while since I been on here I think ! My memory has got worst . I'm still upstairs in my room I don't think I will ever go back downstairs and sleep with my sober A . I feel if I let that guard down it will be a set back for me . He still has not drank we made it to the holidays . I went to one meeting remind you I was in my bedroom for 2 months straight in worst depresstion I ever exsperience , I pray to my high power I don't go threw that again. My husband started a job last month after 2 months of not having one an was let go again . But he happy and content and has a hobbie now . He spray paints cans the fumes give us all headacks . How quick we fall back into our bad behavior when was is weak ( ğ¬). Well when that happen my Alaon skills are still in my head to get me out of any conflict with him . I might not be well but I still have a voice ! At the meeting there must of been new rules made because I was a little set back by the reperman this one woman received from the woman who open the meeting . We each read and shared our opitions and the woman at the meeting took about 1/2 to share hers . When it came down to me I think I got a 3 min green light before I got cut off . This new woman spoke up and agreed with me . And the woman cheered the meeting said stop !!! We do not cross talk here that is the rule ! I have not attended a meeting that was told about that and plus it wasn't announce in the beginning of the meeting and the new girl started crying . What do you say ? I was so angry with the chair person since she crossed talked the whole time and no one was able to share anything more then 3 min . I guess I should of left my QTIP at home that night but I can say I won't attend that meeting again . I left there feeling like I was at school and under control . Should meetings of 5 ppl be this stern .
Yes, some meetings can be very formal and some meetings are less so. I like to attend both types. All of us are trusted servants and we're also recovering from different issues. I'm not sure that I'd leave a meeting due to 1 chair since leadership rotates. I started Al-Anon meetings in 1979. Some felt really weird to me and others were more comfortable. I'm glad I attended them because they were the only help available for people in 1979 that I knew then. Knowing how serious this disease is and how much our culture contributes to it, I think I would have hurt myself if I didn't take advantage of the help that was available for families of alcoholics - even if we did carry out the principles and traditions imperfectly. I also signed up to chair meetings to help myself accept that I wasn't just an attender, but an active participant in the program who had a responsibility to the Al-Anon groups I attended. Rotation of leadership helps our groups guard against one or two people taking over and running meetings the way they want to run them every time we meet.
Thank you that's good to no . I always wonder who made a decision over opening and closing . Oh and as far as my topic attachment see I forgot about what I was talking about . I think my depresstion got worst when I try to detatch myself from me I couldn't handle any more stress and pity so now I'm giving myself alittle but back to me and taking things in the moment not the past or the next day but the day I'm in is all I work on now . I'm being good to myself I had a hard life of shame and guilt that now I let it go to god and I have serenity now . That's what my topic was about . Thank you for letting me share this peaceful feeling of happiness and hope
Yes I was in the process of giving up . I detatched myself from my husband and my thinking at the time in depresstion mode if I detatched myself let my self go to god I would be free of all problems I no it might sound like suicdial but I would not do that for it's a sin and I would not leave my children . I speak In a complex way and other ppl like me understand me . But I found a way to get in touch with myself and stoped my detachment I no it sound bizarre . But with out me my home would be nothing . I'm the mom who tends to hold the love the peace and the wisdom to right by raising my children with positive and hope . I'm sorry if I'm confusing . I'm a slow work hoping to progress soon
Yes I do understand you. I know it feels like you have to "step out" of yourself to deal with certain situations. I learned how to do that also. I found though that the ability to detach in this way was not always a healthy choice for me. It kept me from being able to work the program the best I could. So instead of automatically detaching every time I felt scared or mad or any other emotion I didn't like, I started practicing how to wait a while and allow myself to feel my feelings instead of running away from them. After a long time of practicing I was able to increase the time I felt my feelings. Eventually I learned it was ok for me to feel because I could trust myself to be a good protector. We start by just one baby step and back 2 it seems sometimes. But day by day, it gets easier.
