Triggers for the A in our life - Al-Anon Family Group

Jen61 · ~*Service Worker*~

Triggers for the A in our life

Melly1248 · ~*Service Worker*~

Hmm. The wind blowing from the north? The wind blowing from the east? Sunshine? Fridays?

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

In my experience, slacking of meetings, fellowship, step work are what then make an alcoholic susceptible to "triggers." If we are working a solid AA program, nothing is really a "trigger." If not, any stupid thing can be a trigger. Being "in program" allows me to deal with life on life's terms. It's that simple.

Jen61 · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks so much.

Hoot Nanny · ~*Service Worker*~

Like what Melly had to say! Does there have to be a reason or trigger? Just saying...

Kathleen

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Jen

Yes anything can be a trigger. I know that when I stopped smoking, coffee, talking on the phone waiting all were "triggers" .

I knew that it was at that time I wanted to smoke, acknowledged it but DID NOT smoke. I knew once I smoked even one I would be hooked again.

I guess what I am saying is that the triggers do not really matter it is what one does after the "Trigger" that counts. Calling sponsors meetings etc.

It is a cunning disease.

Prayers

-- Edited by hotrod on Saturday 21st of December 2013 11:38:56 PM

maryjane · ~*Service Worker*~

When the Yankees win. When the Yankees lose. When the Yankees don't play at all. A trigger is an excuse not a reason.

Mimi3 · Senior Member

Hi Jenny~

Yes I do have some ESH with Triggers....

There is absolutely NOTHING I CAN DO OR SAY THAT WILL CAUSE AN ALCOHOLIC TO DRINK, THEY DRINK BECAUSE THEY CHOOSE TO BE DRUNK, MORE THAN THEY CHOOSE TO BE SOBER...

Hugs to you!

Jen61 · ~*Service Worker*~

All of you are right. Thanks so much for the input.

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I used to walk on eggshells not to cause my A's to drink, hmmm, but now with al-anon I know there is no amount of tip toeing around going to keep them from what they do best and crazy making blame comes with that for me. So I walk head held high and don't duck at noises anymore. I say what I mean, mean what I say without saying it mean. I take good care of me and have completely detached from feeling responsible for grown people taking care of themselves. Don't get me wrong I love my A's and always will. Al-anon and my sponsor helped me to stay on my side of the street and to stop trying to make sense of something I could never understand. I did not cause it, I can't control it, nor can I cure it otherwise I would have done so by now and alcoholism and other addictions would no longer exist. My A's have their own HP and I have mine that can handle all that I can not, which is a lot and I don't mind handing it over these days. Sending you much love and support on your journey!

-- Edited by Breakingfree on Monday 23rd of December 2013 12:39:26 AM

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