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Gaby


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So my son was MIA as most of you knew. Our neighbors found him out of gas in his car on the side of the freeway. Well my intentions was to take the car away which that did happen. My son came home and got his last fixed and asked to head back to recovery. He looked like death.. My husband said and agreed let's do this to get him the hell out of here. Great support!! But he is seeing me on my death bed and I'm feeling it. Well we drove got the a destination 4 hours away from home and my son was almost dead.. Having bad tremors and could not breath.. 911 had to be called this is 330 am in a parking lot and they came drove him to the nearby hospital and they kept him until today for detox and as they explained to my husband and I he had absolutely no fluids in him and the tremors can lead to other things..well we got him to where he needed to go. He is so mad at me but yet he asked for the help. And the pastor said to me let my son work through this and don't visit until I say it's ok. Well I agree because my was using the excuse of " now I can't see my daughter" I said you weren't seeing her already and left.. Now I have to work on me because if I don't I may "god forbid" never leave his disease.. God bless you all!!!

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Gaby


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I meant the pastor said let your son take care of himself. Don't visit don't send nothing to comfort him don't engage into any conversations that brings up his daughter when he is able to call you. Make him realize "oh crap I lost every thing".. It hurts and I'm angry and fustrated. But I'm tired of his disease and I need to make me strong to he able to say " I will no longer have your disease ruin me"!!!!

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Prayers, Gaby.

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Cathyinaz


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The pastor have is giving you some good advice for you and your son. Now that I know my son will be safe for the moment I have a great opportunity to focus on me and look inside my myself.

My son going to his dad's to live I don't think is good for him but I can't change that. I just pray for both of them.

Pray for your son but focus on you completely while he's safe

((( hugs )))



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PP


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Were you really on your deathbed?  I found, before I knew better, I behaved like a martyr and that served no one.  When I recognized what I was doing, I stopped, as it was pure manipulation, and, I believe this kind of manipulation is aggressive and hurtful to the ones I love.  Your pastors advice was golden.  Prayers that your son will receive the help that is now being offered, and, you will do the same.



-- Edited by PP on Thursday 19th of December 2013 08:47:34 AM

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And the pastor said to me let my son work through this and don't visit until I say it's ok. Well I agree because my was using the excuse of " now I can't see my daughter" I said you weren't seeing her already and left.. Now I have to work on me because if I don't I may "god forbid" never leave his disease.. God bless you all!!! 

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what a shame, to self inflict ones own death, but that is what untreated alkies do.....they march toward their own demise, and leave broken hearts all over the place......it is what it is and we MUST, for our sakes, LET THIS GO....I like what the pastor said...sounds like he is either working a good programme or he is just wise and knows that we only can control our own journeys..........i think of my best male friend....my A brother who is the  "next one after me" in age sequence....my BEST PAL....killing himself a bit each day.....so far he can still work....still "do stuff"  but the drink will get him in time....i can do NOTHING about this, but let go.....detach......distance myself from the disease and be prepared that this life of his is only going to get worse and worse unless he arrests it and gets into AA.......I don't even talk with him when i know he is drinking.......



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Debilyn


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had to send you love. get some rest!!!! debilyn



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