We've been dealing with our addict son for more years than I'd like to admit.  Finally about 2 years ago we got serious about trying to stop the craziness.  His dad and I told him he could no longer live in our home and off he went.  Motels, couches, OD's, psych wards, rehab, sober living, then room renting and continuing to abuse.  The first year I was good about boundaries and then he agreed to go to rehab (again) and did great and all of my hard work went by the wayside.  Anyway over the last few months, my enabling, his drama was about to send me over the deep end and I knew I had to get back to setting AND keeping boundaries and found this web-site.  

The holidays, all I could think was "homeless for the holidays", he would be without a roof over his head :(   He and I had a couple of very long texting sessions, he bemoaning his terrible life and me telling him I could no longer handle the drama, that I realized I couldn't fix him or his problems and was going to work on myself.  He tried to get to me using his tried and true methods of manipulation and I was able to hang tough and stand my ground.  And a funny thing happened, he stayed sober enough to get himself to work, to collect his pay and not spend it all on drugs.  And, there has been no drama.  He called me this week and said that he didn't think he would participate in Xmas with the family (all know his story),  just didn't feel like he could.  He is very embarrassed by his life.  Hmmm, I didn't ask him to change his mind, I respected what he said.although it did make me feel surprisingly sad.  Haven't figured out if I'm sad for me or for him.  Letting him go and do whatever he was going to do without me hovering seems to have done us both some good.  I'm sure the next big drama is just around the corner, however I'll take this period of peace and continue to pray for him, that his HP touches his soul and shows him the way to true recovery.