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Well it's been 3 days now that I have no idea what is happening with my son. Today I again did not go to work. I am so depressed!!! It's really hurting.. BUT I believe he is coherent enough to know what he is doing. His baby's m calls me yesterday to ask me what is going on?? I really have no reason to talk to her but I did. She said this is day 2 that my son has not gone to see his daughter. I was shocked because last Wednesday my son said that he did go see her and left 20 minutes early to go to a meeting.. I told her that I really don't know what is going on I have not talked to him for 3 days. She said her advice to him was to get help. I agreed with her. She and I are on the same page when it comes to his addiction. He would be no good for his daughter if he does not get well. I am at least glad she reached out.. Wether she was concern it did not sound like it. I know her well but I at least know that my son was alive since he made contact with her. This is all to hard. I have a face to face meeting tonight.. I will go to. I need it.
Your son will not get help until HE wants it. It won't work you worrying....trust me I have been on that train for 5 years now and many more years for others here.
Yeah I just called my son and he's drunk or drugged out of his mind. Sad and he's getting worse. Mom stuck her big fat face into it again.
He also doesn't care no matter what he tells me. Sober he's all loving and wants this and wants that for himself. He's going to do this and he's going to do that....but in the end it's all BULL. He tells me what I want to hear. It's sad but my son will tell me ANYTHING that will keep me off his back but still enable him. Just enough......just what I need to hear to keep his disease safe.....
I can beg, cry, worry, fear, get mad and enable to the cows come home and it won't do a thing. Until HE SUFFERS the consequences of HIS choices will anything change....and that's a maybe to be honest.
Go to the meeting and let others help you. You won't get well overnight but you will start to get some relief and sense of peace with what you hear. Read and keep reading all you can get your hands on. Understand this disease of addiction and help yourself. If you don't you will suffer right alone side of your son. Don't let this happen to you my friend. Take the ESH to heart because many here know what they are talking about.
Prayers for you and me and all of us on MIP
-- Edited by Cathyinaz on Monday 16th of December 2013 03:15:51 PM
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
This is all to hard. I have a face to face meeting tonight.. I will go to. I need it.
********************* Dear Gaby, that is the best choice you can make...meets and steps with a good sponsor keep me taking care of me and letting go of that over which i am powerless......
In Support
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
