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My daughter has been contacting us more frequently, wanting to talk...and talk....jumping from topic to topic, and unable to listen when we talk. This goes on for a day or so and then we hear nothing for a few days. She can hardly process what we say and we cannot follow her train of thought.
She is both using prescription drugs and alcohol-a lethal combination.
I am working so hard remembering I didnt cuase it, cant cure it, cant control it......but realize in her "state" she has completely lost ability to look at herself to see what is happening.
Prayers for you and your family. In the work I've done, I've known several people who have done the same thing but with street drugs and alcohol. They've lived to tell the story. We have no control over the outcome of our loved ones' choices. We can trust that their HP is in control and with them through the worst of it. I can remember one gal who I guessed would be gone within a few days or months. She was that far gone. She came to me for money. I watched her shake in a chair in front of my desk. I told her I knew why she wanted the money and the reason I wasn't going to give it to her. I also suggested she seek help for herself. She was furious with me because I wouldn't give her money but I could also see how scared she was then. I let her be angry without caving and apologizing for saying what I knew to say.
Fast forward many years later. I was sitting in a gym at a 5th grade graduation celebration for a child I knew. I didn't pay attention to the people behind me until it was time to leave and a gal behind me called my name. It was the same gal who had been drugging for many years. She had stopped her drug use. She'd been clean and sober for five years. She had been reunited with her family who was with her that day. She was happy and in her right mind. Her family was very poor. They had few resources of their own and she had none the last time I saw her. In spite of the odds against her, her HP was able to help her recover her faith, her health, her family and her right mind.
Although premature death is always a reality, it doesn't always happen. We just can't know the outcomes of our loved ones choices, but we can trust that their HP is present to them in ways we simply can't be.
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Prayer for you and your daughter. I'm seeing over this last year that my son is now using prescription drugs along with the alcohol and it scares me even more. The doctors just give them what they want anymore. There is nothing I can do about it so I can only pray he will realize what he is doing to himself.
Take care and HP be with you
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Im sorry Ignutah, just keep on looking after yourself, can you set a boundary that she doesn't call in these states? or maybe if you don't answer the phone at night or when she is most likely to be drunk. Do whats best for you to maintain your serenity.x
We set our ringers to turn off at sometime between 8 and 9 pm as a way to protect ourselves from being called when she is drunk and slurring. However, it seems now her drinking and using prescription drugs has extended to all hours so there appears to be no time anymore when she sounds normal (of course she declares she doesnt take the anti anxiety medicine every day-only when she is frightened).
I agree with Betty, it sounds familiar....when they are drinking or coming off a drunk, they hardly can communicate.... the 3 c's......didn't cause.....cannot control....cannot fix........it is so hard but necessary to LET GO...hand her over to creator.....i have to do it w/my brother (I have one other A and NA brother i had to really back off from bc he is soo screwed up and irrational i can't handle his gross remarks and crazy talk) the other A brother whom i am close to , when sober, i can communicate w/him....even on the 1st drink he isn't so bad, but when i can't handle it??? I get off the phone...."oh someone is at the door...gotta go" Oh my supper is on the stove, gotta go...........i just put boundaries on how much of it i can handle.....i don't handle the rest.......please keep taking care of you
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