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He left the SLE HOUSE.. He is out there trying to get his next fix.. God is by me.. I feel the strength. I have done all I can do. All I can do now is pray !!! But I am so worried. I need peace !!
Let him go my friend....help yourself or your going to make yourself sick. You know you can't do anything because he is going to only take care of his addiction at this moment. I know of the worry and fear and I deal with it the best I can with help from others. It does pass after a while when I set down and realize what is happening and knowing I can't stop it.
Prayers are with you and your son that he will be OK, that God is with him.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Go do some detachment lessons Gaby. For me peace came when I could love my alcoholic/addict and not fear for her. He's got a Higher Power also and that isn't you. Keep coming back cause we will love you when you find it difficult to love yourself. ((((hugs))))
Gaby, I have been following your story. It makes me so sad to hear about what he is putting you thru, I've walked many miles in shoes like yours.
My son is also an addict and I know exactly how you feel. But the lessons I'm learning and trying to apply to my life about letting him go, detaching with love and taking care of myself, are really helping me to stop the constant obsessing, helping to stifle some of the sadness I feel about my son's life and actually giving me more calm and more confidence in saying no to him. Especially hard this time of the year.
I'm working on myself (and my unhealthy co-dependence issues) and I'm finally accepting I can't fix him or his problems. Realizing that has been a relief to me in so many ways.
I will say prayers for you to find some peace in your life at this time.
Gaby, I'm praying for peace! It's so hard to watch our loved ones hurt themselves!
When my youngest was 5 he discovered moms gas stovetop. He saw the flame and wanted to touch it. I watched grandma tell him no and he did it anyway. She stopped him and popped him on his little hand and said no again. This went on for awhile!!! Finally she decided to get out of the way! She realized that he was not fearing her pops, and they were not going to stop him! So, she removed her attempt to control AND protect (this was hard to watch) and she just stood there. He began to reach up YET AGAIN and looked at her...to see what she would do. She did nothing. She said nothing! He got his little hand up to the flame and screamed! He yanked his hand back and she ran it under cold water! He NEVER did that again.
I would have cooked on the back burners....or just turned them off and stopped cooking. But that would not have been good either. How could I let a 5 yr old determine how and when I could cook?
And would I have to stand over him EVERYTIME I cooked?
I hate that he hurt his little hand, but he learned. Had we not let him learn the way he needed to (on his own) something worse could have happened.
I said all that to say letting our kids do stupid things that cause them pain is SO HARD! But, necessary if they are to learn.
I hope this helps!
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More of LET GO & LET GOD, Less of GRAB ON & LET ME!
So sorry Gaby! He is beyond your help now. I pray that his HP will work within him to bring realization and the fortitude to break free of this disease. And I also pray that your higher power will continue to sustain you in this darkest of times.
