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So fustrated at myself.. I love my son.. I truly feel like I may have abandoned him but truly I had to change things up. I needed to stick with my rental agreement.. There are consequences in life and I feel that he needs to pay them. I love him but I've done all I can do.. Now it's all up to him. And i will pray!!!
You didn't abandoned him but let him go to find his own way. It's tough I know....look what I did Sunday. I went to my son because I couldn't leave him alone and hurt. He's home now....with people he can call and I can return to my program. I didn't enable financially...I went....cried...had a mini crisis myself seeing him...kept him for the night and then took him home this morning. He's sober again....so I can only pray for him. I'm sure this is not going to be the last....I can only hope I don't go crazy about it again.
I feel bad I did this and was not strong enough to let him alone...but I guess I did because that is what I had to do.
Keep taking care of you and sit back and watch what happens. Detach with love and kindness and you will be OK
(((( hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Gaby, it's obvious you love your son. ((((hugs)))) Cathy, you love your son too. ((((hugs)))) It seems like you both did what you had to do under the circumstances. Hoping and praying for the best for both of you. None of this is easy or simple, if it was we wouldn't be here.
Gaby- I go back and forth with my son. Sometimes I try to give him a leg up and he blows his part. When he does I have to say 'not ready yet' and walk away. I'm never sure what to do as a parent and what to NOT DO.
He KNOWS I love him....your sons KNOWS you love him!
My son will turn 20 Wednesday. I spent some time with him yesterday and all I did was lash out at him for his crappy decision making! I really messed that up! I gave him no dignity to make his own decisions. I was angry because I had been 'investing' again....and I'm afraid....those 2 things together always lead me to anger!
WHEN I get some sanity back and LET GO & LET GOD (not grab on & let ME). I do best! I'm strengthened by your struggle because you did the right thing even though it hurts. You allowed him his consequence! Awesome!
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More of LET GO & LET GOD, Less of GRAB ON & LET ME!
