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All I did was ask if he was ok. Apparently, that is a go for him going off about something and how I always put him in a spot, and how he's always wrong, blah blah blah. And he apologized, and he said he was going through some stuff, and then he went to go lie down in his room.
Alrighty. Whatever babe. I'm going to sit here with my beer and control of the remote and my laptop and enjoy the rest of my evening.
Spider, you made me laugh! I never want to do anything except bitch at my A. And he bought me a sandwich and a breakfast burrito and some honey for me in the last 4 days, and I'm still bitching at him. Wow....
lol.
Yeah mine is lying down in his room after being a world class B---- all day too. At least you got an apology.
My crime was...wait for it...we went to the beach without him. Even though he says no every single time I ask him to go anywhere and has actually yelled at me several times recently not to bother him for any reason when he is in his room. It gets better; I am "being a smartass trying to prove I can do things without him". All I did was walk to the beach; apparently the only acceptable action is for me to ask him to drive me to the beach, and then stay home and be sad when he says no. He's also very hurt and angry that the lawn has been mowed, even though he has refused to do it for over 6 months and told me just the other day that he wont do it because it isn't his job.
Alrighty indeed. I think I say that word more than any other these days!
I'm enjoying a beer and a nice, quiet, free from nonsense evening too. So cheers to you, SpiderArcana
Yep. He kept on telling me I was upset or angry and I looked at him and said, 'Which one of us has the raised voice and is stomping around, and which one of us is calmly eating a bowl of mac and cheese?' I'll be interested to hear what 'stuff' he is going through, or what his excuse is.
The sad part about this whole thing is he left me a note 'Sorry I suck.' It screams for attention and an excuse that his behavior is just the way it is because 'he sucks'. I have never seen anyone rip themselves apart like he does. I honestly think he hates himself. Unfortunately, that's not something I can fix.
I'm honestly not sure he'd been drinking. Probably a bout of dry-drunk behavior. Whatever. Not my problem. I have a life to live.
I know!!! I was "being a B...." apparently too! When I was in a very happy mood and have said exactly nothing to him all day aside from pleasantries!!
As you say, not our problem. I had a little attack of "what if he is upset because I said this and he thought I meant this and...." and then I realised what I was doing. And how much of my life I have wasted on those exact thoughts over the past 7 years. Pfft.
I am pretty sure that the sole intention of these kinds of behaviours is to make sure that we are thinking about them 24-7.
He was probably really mortified that you were able to calmly eat when you SHOULD have been attending the argument he was inviting you to!!
