The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The First Step is extremely difficult . When we finally do "accept" the truth of that Step an entire world of Acceptance opens up for us.
I am so happy that you returned to alanon and found the support and underdstanding that you needed to walk through the fear and find serenity and courage to change your life.
Keep coming back
-- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 24th of November 2013 08:52:27 AM
It has taken over 10 years, but I accept that I am powerless over alcoholism and my life is unmanageable. Being married to my AH for over 32 years, and accepting some very unacceptable behavior the last ten years, has taken quite a toll on my life. 10 years ago I organized an intervention for my AH. I thought for sure this would fix everything. He walked in, saw what was happening, and walked out the door. I should have taken that as the first clue he was not going to change. He did go to rehab the next day, but relapsed quickly after coming out. I tried Alanon back then, but still thought I could control the situation. Then came 3 more rehabs and many relapses. I admit that one of the reasons I kept allowing him back into my life was financial. I just didn't think I could raise my kids on my own. This past January, I had all I could take and asked him to leave. I filed for divorce and started attending Alanon meetings. I still thought that I could say something to my AH that would miraculously change our situation. As I attended meetings, I realized that I could not control anyone but myself and that I deserved better. It has taken almost a year for the truth to sink in. My divorce will be final soon and the next chapter of my life will begin. I am thankful for the encouragement, strength and hope I receive in Alanon. I look forward to the next chapter.
I realized that I could not control anyone but myself and that I deserved better. It has taken almost a year for the truth to sink in. My divorce will be final soon and the next chapter of my life will begin. I am thankful for the encouragement, strength and hope I receive in Alanon. I look forward to the next chapter.
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Yep, you took a BIG step, and maybe (leaving/divorce due to acceptance) for the first time in a long time you were your own best friend.....in alanon we are here to save ourselves....to take care of us....
some folks choose to stay....some leave...I left....i knew , even tho i was majorally messed up, i deserved way better than an active alkie could give to me......
glad to see you wanting to work alanon....this program will help you think healthier, take better care of you and all around do better for yourself...
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Thanks for bringing that here Clou and congradulations on your recovery...Next Chapter? gotta do it one page at a time. I like the metaphor. ((((hugs))))
Welcome Clou- I'm glad you're here. Thank you for your inspiring share. Self care and doing the next right thing isn't always easy but it does bring good things.
