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wondering just where we went wrong in raising him is slowly eroding all my joy in life. I'm in my sixties and I really need some peace.
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so you raise them up....do your best.....but you must remember they are their OWN SOULS......they grow up and they are on their own.....I cold blame me for Daughter #2's behaviour, but I don't have that kind of power
look at my upbringing...if anyone "deserved" to be a serial killer it would be me.....but that sorta negative and darkness just WAS NOT in me.......i chose to reverse the negative....i chose to embrace the light...be a vessel of good , not evil....it was my CHOICE........so if HE, the monster hadn't the power to turn me into an Aileen Wournos, then that means people don't really have power over another, not really...not deep in their guts and their souls......JUST sayin
-- Edited by neshema2 on Monday 11th of November 2013 06:03:10 PM
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
I would like the title and whether I can purchase it on Amazon. Just so disappointed with my son right now. He is posting pictures on facebook that show he is not in any way curbing his drinking. Every time I see one, I want to crawl into a hole. I feel like such a failure as a mother because I tried so hard to instill in him moderation in all things. Instead he likes to skirt the edge at all times and he is in his thirties. This time we are adamant that he will not get any monetary help when he crashes- I know that is going to be very difficult because no one wants to see their child homeless in another country. But he just does not learn from his mistakes and worrying about him and wondering just where we went wrong in raising him is slowly eroding all my joy in life. I'm in my sixties and I really need some peace.
I would cut him off face book but that is the only way we have of knowing how he is doing. But it is like self flagellation every time we view his postings. How can a smart man be so stupid!
I did what I wanted to do, Deacon. It had nothing to do with my parents after awhile. They were my parents. I loved them and respected them and their lifestyle. I still didn't do what they always wanted me to do. That wasn't due to them. That was due to me and my choices. I'll bet you did the same? Our job isn't to force them to turn out the way we'd like them to do it. Our job is to raise them and then set them free. You've done the best you could to raise your son as far as you could take it. Now, its up to him and his HP. We can love them. We can pray for them. We can care. What we can't do is force them to be anything they don't want to be or to do anything they don't want to do. Your son knows where he can real help if he needs it. He also knows that you love him. Remember the 3cs, deacon. I don't read fb or use it. I've seen things occasionally that are too upsetting to me. What's that old saying? "Don't trouble trouble until trouble troubles you?" I decided I didn't want to know anything that wasn't brought directly to me by him. Otherwise, I was setting myself up for trouble. Every once in awhile I've snuck a peek. Then, I return to the original decision by keeping focused on what I'm doing that brings me joy or pain. (((deacon)))
Neshema, I love you and your wonderful attitude. You are right in that we choose the life we have. My son had a good childhood with no wants and lots of love and structure. He really has no reason for this behavior aside from the fact that uncles on both sides have had problems with alcohol. As does his dad when he drinks.
