The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I had someone from Alanon tell me the other day to stomp my feet or shake my hands at my sides to remind me that I am in the present. There isn't anything I can do about the past. And there isn't much I can do about the future. That helped me to stay in the moment and not get to panicky when my plans change. I do also lean on my Higher Power for peace a lot. I understand how hard it is to stop dwelling, Its hard to stop that circular thinking. Maybe if you give yourself permission to vent or to talk it out or to cry about it or scream about it you can release it into the universe. For example. I am going to give myself 30 minutes to think about this HARD, then I will do something FUN, because I am not solving anything. Even if it comes back, at least you will be lighter in the meantime. if it is still bothering you, it is still bothering you. Don't fight it. A friend told me "Feel it, reveal it, heal it". Can you write it on paper and then burn it? Can you tell a priest? Can you tell a pet? I find the act of sharing or verbalizing to be very therapeutic.
I wish you all the best. I will keep you in my prayers
BTW I think everyone has there own private issues, and everyone wants to be liked, and everyone has their flaws. you are NOT alone.
-- Edited by sadsusie on Saturday 9th of November 2013 09:37:34 PM
I am constantly being critical or over-analyzing myself these days. I am stuck in a muck. I have no business staying here. It doesn't feel comfortable at all. Ever since my mom came home, I have felt more insecure. My life is troubling me so much that I am unable to let go of the past & my difficult memories still today. I wish I had someone close to me who could take me through the steps to let it ALL go. I know there are some of you who could totally relate to the issue I am struggling w/ but I don't want to put it out there because of shame & guilt. It is a HUGE issue. I know that I have mentioned this before. I know that I have to stop bringing it up. It is a daily struggle. I feel that sometimes it seems to lessen to the point where I think it has gone away but then it comes back.
It all comes down to if I can overcome. It is very scary to feel that if I open up myself to others they really wouldn't like me. I want so desperately to be liked flaws & all. If it is a disease I have, maybe there is a cure. Keeping in mind that if I can't get past it, it might kill me. I really think it is a spiritual sickness. It seems to stem from the way I have been treated & another person who seemed to think it was OK.
So, now I am getting too involved again. I just need to stop dwelling. I can't really blame it on another person. This person is very sick too.
((((Kath)))) you sound stuck....ugh. What helped me was increasing my meetings and face to faces with my sponsor and others in the program...are you doing that? ((((hugs))))
((Kathleen)) It is in our diminishing our fear of vulnerability that we can learn to trust ourselves and others. Start small and don't give in to isolating and think progress and not perfection.
First, to answer your questions....no. Most of us have the same messages/insecurities/fears mulling about. My question to you is what is really stopping you from reaching out?
