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Since my last post, I have moved to my own place and the alcoholic ex-bf is still in jail. I have been served and I am to attend court for his abuse toward me. In addition to moving to my own place, I am filled with additional stress, of dealing with my older sister, an active alcoholic, love affair. A year ago she left her husband of 20 years and moved in with a new man. All three have become friends. My sister is going back and forth from her husband to her boyfriend and when drinking she tells me all about it. She says she is going to dump her bf also a drinker and go back to her alcoholic husband. I have told her its to much drama for me and I do not want to hear it, but she continues to tell me about her delima. I know its the alcohol speaking and what she is saying is all BS, but I am finding its effecting me and I am getting dragged into her alcoholic web of lies. Being her sister, I am finding myself obesssing about HER PROBLEMS and how to help her. It bothers me as I have my own problems, court comming up and I need all the support I can get and I can not get distracted. I need to stay focused. I have set boundaries with my sisiter and told her its to much drama for me to hear and leave me out, as I live alone, and I do not want to be dragged in but when its quite I start obsessing about her problems. I feel I am dragged in to this mess and I do not like it as it effecting me. Any ESHIP would help.
I have found if I am not working my recovery program enthusiastically or allow myself to get too HALT, my HP will bring all kinds of situations into my life that cause me to re-commit to me and my recovery. There is an abundance of people that would love to play the role of VAMPIRE and suck the life force from me, if I let them. If I let them they will...I am the key in not letting that happen. When I stumble I symbolically plaster the al anon slogans and serenity prayer all over me and my house, attend meetings and talk with people who are in recovery. Take good care of you!
You are in a vulnerable place right now and naturally any drama and upheaval will cause you to loose focus. I would not answer the telephone to the calls and If she leaves a message I would listen to make sure there is no emergency and then immediately delete it
Taking care of yourself is of the utmost importance s as Paula suggested increased alanon meetings, calls and repeated serenity prayers are in order
