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DavidG


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My friend... its a tough illness...hmm  and even tougher to face alone! blankstare

In Alanon we all have been through it and many are still going through it! There is hope if we learn to take care of ourselves. Then it is much easier to plan our next move... aww

Take care...

DavidG,

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-- Edited by DavidG on Wednesday 30th of October 2013 09:36:44 PM

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1st time posting here, my wife is a Alcholic, has been for years-she nearly drank herself to death a few years ago 30+ a day, and got violent at the end. Long story short 6' guy had to get a restraining order on his 5'3" wife. After that she was sober for 3 great years then decided to start drinking again. now I am the bad guy at wits end really shes been dinrking for 2 years and getting worse.



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Welcome Sefrin
You are not alone.   Alcoholism is  a progressive fatal illness, as you already know. We who live with the disease have been adversely affected and truly need a program of recovery.  Alanon and this Board is that program. 
 
 Alanon holds face to face meetings in most communities.  It is here that we learn to break the isolation caused  by this disease,  own our feelings, our  fears and learn  new tools  to live by.   The telephone number for alanon can be found in the white pages. I urge you to call and  attend  You are worth it.
 
Keep coming back here as well .  Join us on this journey 


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Welcome to MIP. I am glad you are here. Please keep coming back. My x was very sick and violent, too. I wasn't sure I would survive the crushing blows of this disease, but with help, I did. I not only survived, I began to thrive again. Al-Anon, MIP and doing things you love with people you enjoy will help you work through the grief and find solid ground again.

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oldergal


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Curious why you think you are the bad guy....og



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It's distressing to not be able to comprehend "why". Why can't "love" be enough to change all this? In a way it is, but we have to figure out "how" and to whom that love is directed.

I hand it over when I cannot no more, and practice detachment in times like these. In my case priority is to take care of my mental health first. I want to be able to be objective.

Regardless of the chaos and what happens, it's good to remember we all have choices and I take it from there. I change what I can and what I can't I hand over. You're in a good place here.....and as they say, Keep coming back

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Welcome to MIP.  Stay with al anon and you can add more great years for you onto the 3 great years you already mentioned.  The program will help you find peace whether or not your wife is drinking, sober or in recovery.  Keep coming back!



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Welcomce Sefrin

Very Glad to Welcome you to Our Always Growing Family :) You have Come to the Right Place... You are No Where Near Alone in your Struggles with your Wife, and We at times have ALL be the "Bad Guy", maybe not for the same Reasons, but in the minds of our own Alcoholics...

I Can Tell you, I have been Coming to Al-Anon for Close to 5yrs, and I GOT SOBER While Here! I Came Hear to Help me Deal with the Lost of My AFather, and ended up Finding So Much More then a Fix on My Grief, but I Found a Soft Place to Land, & a SAFE Place to Land, here in the Hands of Al-Anon...

For me it was a Great Blessing to come here & Get my Feelings OUT, Out of my Head, Out of My Heart, Out of My Focus, and Out of Controling My Life! I Hope you Continue this Journey to Get Out of your own way, and it is True what has been said here: It CAN Get Better Wether your Alcoholic is Still Drinking Or Not! I'm Living Proof, I Marked 3yrs Sober this Month, My Miricle Came! Right Along With My Recovery of All the Damage Done By My Many Alcoholics...

Glad your Here, Keep Coming Back... Please Take what you Like & Leave the Rest...

Jozie

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Welcome!! Hang in there, it is hard I know. Keep coming back. I know if I couldn't log on everyday, well, let's just say I thank my HP everyday showing me I am not alone. It doesn't cure everything, but I have learned so much and something about knowing we are not alone helps!

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