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Just sharing...........


I know not everyone uses music, but music is how I relate, commutate at times and well. Music is my thing for a lot.  This is a song IF I decide to leave my A means something to me.  And sometimes I think when I hear it helps me decide what I really want. I am at my cross road so it hits home. I wish I could play it for my A, but I know that isnt good to do.

Anyway I got thinking, I know there are others who struggle, wonder if they should stay or go.  So if you relate to music, and just need to think I welcome you to listen to this on your tube or whatever you have. And even if you dont like Daughtry it is a powerful song for those of us who struggle with our As  XOXOX All

Daughtry - No Surprise

I've practiced this for hours, gone 'round and 'round
And now I think that I've got it all down
And as I say it louder I love how it sounds
'Cause I'm not taking the easy way out

Not wrapping this in ribbons
Shouldn't have to give a reason why

It's no surprise, I won't be here tomorrow
I can't believe that I stayed till today
Yeah, you and I will be a tough act to follow
But I know in time we'll find this was no surprise

It came out like a river once I let it out
When I thought that I wouldn't know how
Held onto it forever just pushing it down
Felt so good to let go of it now

Not wrapping this in ribbons
Shouldn't have to give a reason why

It's no surprise I won't be here tomorrow
I can't believe that I stayed till today
There's nothing here in this heart left to borrow
There's nothing here in this soul left to say

Don't be surprised when we hate this tomorrow
God knows we tried to find an easier way
Yeah, you and I will be a tough act to follow
But I know in time we'll find this was no surprise

Our favorite place we used to go
The warm embrace that no one knows
The loving look that's left your eyes
That's why this comes as no, as no surprise

If I could see the future and how this plays out
I bet it's better than where we are now
But after going through this
It's easier to see the reason why




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I love Daughtry. I find that most of life's lessons are in his lyrics. Hang on. Music is how I heal as well.

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Great song by Daughtry- Hadn't actually paid close attention to how this related to an alcoholic relationship...wow
Having been on both sides, and I honestly find it so much harder to stay.
Everyone is different though.
I'm personally glad I left, it is definitely not easy either...but I had to for the sake of my health.
Thank you for this, lots ***


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smile I had never heard of Daughtry... until now. I found that music is great therapy and I use you-tube clips a lot. Was a time when my emotions were in lock-down. I could not concentrate long enough to follow a song from end to end...

...I plan to download this one and listen... thanks heaps! aww



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Makes me cry when I hear it, because, it is all that is in my head when I think of giving up. RoseODAT - that is why I am thinking harder. I am just gettng sick, sicker than him I think some days. Breaking out like a teenager LOL, anxity and panic attacks and the pills hardly help (and i HATE taking them), headaches beyond pain (stress related), and just that sick tummy all the time. I may as well just have the flu all the time LOL There has to be a time where we say, my sanity and health is more important. I haven't decided yet but I know from the past, I am getting close to making that decision. But becasue I want to be sure it is the right one, I choose to wait a little longer. UNLESS my coldness and lack of "love" pushes him away first. So hard to fake loving feelings when you don't feel the person you are giving it to even cares if he has it or not. And most of the time he isn't able to give it back so that kinda sucks :) When he works the program he can, but he usually doesn't so we exsits, like many others I am sure. Oh well... tis life. IF HP wants me to stay he will help make happen what needs to happen.

XOXO All. One day at a time :)

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I can remember when I started using music to feel again - some tunes have me in floods of tears. My favourites have been Heather Small 'Proud' and Jana Kramer 'I hope it Rains'. Both tunes have had me dancing and punching the air in the kitchen before breakfast!

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